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Hi, I was going to post this in my other thread on neighbour problems.

One thing I am annoyed about is that my neighbours never communicate with me, unless they want something. OK I may have problems socialising and general chat, but I would guess most of those do not. Even if they don't want to be friendly with me, you would have though they would want to maintain some very loose sociable contact from time to time, as they are likely to want something from me in the future. 

I spent a very brief period in my past working and living in New Zealand / Australia. It is something totally different. That was in 1997 and 2008, just 3 weeks in New Zealand in 2008. Literally after my 28 hour flight where I desperately wanted to go to bed. I was up for a further 9 hours socialising with the person I was renting a holday home from, invited to a social wine tasting drinks with several people, then invited by people there to join them next week for a chat and a meal. Within that brief time, I have had more social contact with my neighbours than a decade of living here.

Similar in 1997, although it was nearly 3 months in Sydney, Melbourne, and Aukland

In Sydney, during a month stay, I was invited to a meal with a friend of a work colleague, I was taking a week off work and she kindly offered me the use of her spare granny annex, car, and phone (to UK) for free (I did pay her when I left, as I felt that was the right thing to do). 

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  • For some reason many people here in the UK seem to be like that, random, why I don't know but there it is. It's the same with my neighbours; one side has dogs and I have complained about the noise from time to time which doesn't promote a friendly relationship with her I know, but you can't let people get away with anything.

    The other side keep to themselves and I suppose it's no good putting the blame entirely on them because we could do more, perhaps, in trying to promote a better relationship. I just think people are generally more reserved in this country because this is how it's been for many years. Maybe it's considered a bit impolite to be too forward with the neighbours because it is considered a bit of an invasion of privacy.

    I just think it's a cultural thing that has been going on for many years and you get born into it and grow up with it so you just take it as the way things are. Maybe we're a bit xenophobic because we are a small island and this extends to strangers who might be neighbours but are unknown to us.

    It would be interesting to hear about others' experiences concerning their neighbours on here. I'm sure there are plenty of friendly neighbours about, given half a chance, and maybe that is the crux of the matter; that people in this country find it hard to 'break the ice' and that, once having initiated a social initiative, would only be to pleased to be more friendly and communicative. 

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  • For some reason many people here in the UK seem to be like that, random, why I don't know but there it is. It's the same with my neighbours; one side has dogs and I have complained about the noise from time to time which doesn't promote a friendly relationship with her I know, but you can't let people get away with anything.

    The other side keep to themselves and I suppose it's no good putting the blame entirely on them because we could do more, perhaps, in trying to promote a better relationship. I just think people are generally more reserved in this country because this is how it's been for many years. Maybe it's considered a bit impolite to be too forward with the neighbours because it is considered a bit of an invasion of privacy.

    I just think it's a cultural thing that has been going on for many years and you get born into it and grow up with it so you just take it as the way things are. Maybe we're a bit xenophobic because we are a small island and this extends to strangers who might be neighbours but are unknown to us.

    It would be interesting to hear about others' experiences concerning their neighbours on here. I'm sure there are plenty of friendly neighbours about, given half a chance, and maybe that is the crux of the matter; that people in this country find it hard to 'break the ice' and that, once having initiated a social initiative, would only be to pleased to be more friendly and communicative. 

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