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Workplace bullying

Trainspotter

How rife is it for Aspies to be bullied at work.  And how much should we put up with?  I'm not talking of general banter, such as when I have a supposedly odd idea itifferent and it generates some well intentioned humour.  I can live with that!

What I am talking about is a manager controlling the whole workplace and then criticising when things are done in a different way.  A manager who imposes rather than discusses change. A manager who changes duties to those which are out of my comfort zone which is boring and tedious.  A manager who constantly 'has a quiet word' but that quiet word is just another way of criticising behaviour and trivial mistakes.  A manager who is impervious to suggestions of other ways of doing things.  And the same manager who confuses the symptoms of Aspergers with dementia (having openly said that she thinks I have dementia).  All these things have caused me much anxiety.

It should be essential training for managers to realise that the workforce should be playing to their strengths and not be constantly moved from job to job.  But when I mention this all as I am told is "Well that is what the job is" with the implication that I know what I can do if I don't like it.

I know there are policies and grievance procedures I could invoke but my experience of this in the past is that it creates a lot of anxiety and managers are tended to be believed by the higher up whatever the evidence to the contrary.  And getting another job is not an option due to my age (61) which would make it very difficult to find alternative employment.

Not really looking for answers here, just needed to get it off my chest!

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  • Yes, you are right, rbs, but one can only advise on the proper channels of resolving problems. If further action was considered on Trainspotter's part at least he could say he took his issues through such channels, without success. It's difficult to know about the specifics of this case because we are not directly involved.

    There is nothing wrong in trying to work within the system as long as other people are prepared to meet you halfway. There is no excuse for bullying under any circumstances. Any problem should be approached by having discussions involving all parties, otherwise things are left to fester and that's when explosions can happen. It's never a good idea to continually sweep things under the carpet - that's just poor management and it's probably not a bad idea to highlight poor managers for future reference.

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  • Yes, you are right, rbs, but one can only advise on the proper channels of resolving problems. If further action was considered on Trainspotter's part at least he could say he took his issues through such channels, without success. It's difficult to know about the specifics of this case because we are not directly involved.

    There is nothing wrong in trying to work within the system as long as other people are prepared to meet you halfway. There is no excuse for bullying under any circumstances. Any problem should be approached by having discussions involving all parties, otherwise things are left to fester and that's when explosions can happen. It's never a good idea to continually sweep things under the carpet - that's just poor management and it's probably not a bad idea to highlight poor managers for future reference.

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