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Workplace bullying

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How rife is it for Aspies to be bullied at work.  And how much should we put up with?  I'm not talking of general banter, such as when I have a supposedly odd idea itifferent and it generates some well intentioned humour.  I can live with that!

What I am talking about is a manager controlling the whole workplace and then criticising when things are done in a different way.  A manager who imposes rather than discusses change. A manager who changes duties to those which are out of my comfort zone which is boring and tedious.  A manager who constantly 'has a quiet word' but that quiet word is just another way of criticising behaviour and trivial mistakes.  A manager who is impervious to suggestions of other ways of doing things.  And the same manager who confuses the symptoms of Aspergers with dementia (having openly said that she thinks I have dementia).  All these things have caused me much anxiety.

It should be essential training for managers to realise that the workforce should be playing to their strengths and not be constantly moved from job to job.  But when I mention this all as I am told is "Well that is what the job is" with the implication that I know what I can do if I don't like it.

I know there are policies and grievance procedures I could invoke but my experience of this in the past is that it creates a lot of anxiety and managers are tended to be believed by the higher up whatever the evidence to the contrary.  And getting another job is not an option due to my age (61) which would make it very difficult to find alternative employment.

Not really looking for answers here, just needed to get it off my chest!

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    Human Resources departments are more often at the beck and call of the management. They will enforce management requests according to the law - I think of them as enforcers rather than as friends. Some HR people are really good at their job and they will work to do the best for individuals because that is a good route to having a productive company.

    Some unions are good - they can be really useful in protecting the welfare of the staff they represent - others are hell bent on the downfall of capitalism. Groupthink is an important concept to understand with unions.

    There is another aspect to this - and this isn't a defence of bullying! I am aware that my behaviour can sometimes be very irritating to other people - I think differently, I don't always do what I am told, I am rebellious. Some managers can deal with this and actually cherish people who think outside the box. Other managers will react to this by turning into Control Freaks who aren't able to cope with people doing things in their own way. Since my diagnosis, I have become much more self-aware and have managed to avoid confrontation by trying harder to work with the system rather than to kick against it all of the time.

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  • Former Member
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    Human Resources departments are more often at the beck and call of the management. They will enforce management requests according to the law - I think of them as enforcers rather than as friends. Some HR people are really good at their job and they will work to do the best for individuals because that is a good route to having a productive company.

    Some unions are good - they can be really useful in protecting the welfare of the staff they represent - others are hell bent on the downfall of capitalism. Groupthink is an important concept to understand with unions.

    There is another aspect to this - and this isn't a defence of bullying! I am aware that my behaviour can sometimes be very irritating to other people - I think differently, I don't always do what I am told, I am rebellious. Some managers can deal with this and actually cherish people who think outside the box. Other managers will react to this by turning into Control Freaks who aren't able to cope with people doing things in their own way. Since my diagnosis, I have become much more self-aware and have managed to avoid confrontation by trying harder to work with the system rather than to kick against it all of the time.

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