How to find a Girlfriend

Hi, Im new, i am 23 years old and i've never had a Girlfriend or even kissed a girl. Its really getting me down because my Step Brother/Step sister have both found partners. My Stepsister has gone on holiday with her partner to greece and my Step Brother is always bringing his gf over to see my Stepdad/my Mum and when they do they always watch movies.

While they are doing that i am upstairs trying to find a girlfriend. I Have tried loads of dating sites but no girls message me back or message me. 

Its really getting me down because i want to be the one who i go on holiday with and bring my gf to meet my mum/stepdad and my dad/stepmum

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  • >I personally don't believe I even deserve to have a girlfriend as I have nothing to offer, comfort or security. I myself have no where to go.

    I have similar difficulties with relationships, but in my earlier adult life have been in a much better position than I am Today, and had very much to offer.

    This peaked around 2000, when I was earning tons of money in a Job I was happy with, driving a nice car I was enthusiastic about, no fears or worrys about finances or security, had my own business, could buy majority of houses I want to live in with cash. For several years preceeding that, my earnings would double roughly every 2 years.

    It made no difference, I still struggled with relationships. Even before that around late 80s, I was in a new hairdressers, a very trendy one at the time, found it very awkward. There were 2 female friends, similar age to me, and one was talking about how much trouble she had finding a suitable partner. She then listed about 16 things she wanted for her dream partner, I matched all of those but about 2 things on her list, and those were related to socialising. I reflect on that sometimes, and feel I should have just butted in to the conversation and told her that I matched most on her list. Even if I did that, I don't feel it would have led to anything.

    I also failed to understand how a friend of a friend who had a very beutiful, caring, and generaly nice person as a loving partner could get maintain a relationship in the way he was extremely abusive to her on a night out with friend when she accidentally dropped something.

    Just mentioning my experience, to show that the difficulties I had were practically nothing to do with what I could offer. 

    Apart from the security, the trappings of wealth didn't really mean much to me; although it made things easier. The main thing I wanted is to be in a caring and loving relationship

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  • >I personally don't believe I even deserve to have a girlfriend as I have nothing to offer, comfort or security. I myself have no where to go.

    I have similar difficulties with relationships, but in my earlier adult life have been in a much better position than I am Today, and had very much to offer.

    This peaked around 2000, when I was earning tons of money in a Job I was happy with, driving a nice car I was enthusiastic about, no fears or worrys about finances or security, had my own business, could buy majority of houses I want to live in with cash. For several years preceeding that, my earnings would double roughly every 2 years.

    It made no difference, I still struggled with relationships. Even before that around late 80s, I was in a new hairdressers, a very trendy one at the time, found it very awkward. There were 2 female friends, similar age to me, and one was talking about how much trouble she had finding a suitable partner. She then listed about 16 things she wanted for her dream partner, I matched all of those but about 2 things on her list, and those were related to socialising. I reflect on that sometimes, and feel I should have just butted in to the conversation and told her that I matched most on her list. Even if I did that, I don't feel it would have led to anything.

    I also failed to understand how a friend of a friend who had a very beutiful, caring, and generaly nice person as a loving partner could get maintain a relationship in the way he was extremely abusive to her on a night out with friend when she accidentally dropped something.

    Just mentioning my experience, to show that the difficulties I had were practically nothing to do with what I could offer. 

    Apart from the security, the trappings of wealth didn't really mean much to me; although it made things easier. The main thing I wanted is to be in a caring and loving relationship

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