How to find a Girlfriend

Thank you for taking the time I completely understand. I feel it would have been better to meet someone at younger age (me just me leaving school and moving into collage) I had more hopes and seen the world in a different light, the older I get the harder its becoming. It’s only getting worse and I am not easy person to live with. I find the only way it could work is that we stay in separate house's and have our own space and just stay over each other place till we know we are capable.

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>I personally don't believe I even deserve to have a girlfriend as I have nothing to offer, comfort or security. I myself have no where to go.

I have similar difficulties with relationships, but in my earlier adult life have been in a much better position than I am Today, and had very much to offer.

This peaked around 2000, when I was earning tons of money in a Job I was happy with, driving a nice car I was enthusiastic about, no fears or worrys about finances or security, had my own business, could buy majority of houses I want to live in with cash. For several years preceeding that, my earnings would double roughly every 2 years.

It made no difference, I still struggled with relationships. Even before that around late 80s, I was in a new hairdressers, a very trendy one at the time, found it very awkward. There were 2 female friends, similar age to me, and one was talking about how much trouble she had finding a suitable partner. She then listed about 16 things she wanted for her dream partner, I matched all of those but about 2 things on her list, and those were related to socialising. I reflect on that sometimes, and feel I should have just butted in to the conversation and told her that I matched most on her list. Even if I did that, I don't feel it would have led to anything.

I also failed to understand how a friend of a friend who had a very beutiful, caring, and generaly nice person as a loving partner could get maintain a relationship in the way he was extremely abusive to her on a night out with friend when she accidentally dropped something.

Just mentioning my experience, to show that the difficulties I had were practically nothing to do with what I could offer. 

Apart from the security, the trappings of wealth didn't really mean much to me; although it made things easier. The main thing I wanted is to be in a caring and loving relationship

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THANK YOU!

Hi Guys,

This gets discussed on the forum as it is a common problem so you are not alone. Have a look at the threads returned by this search community.autism.org.uk/.../"finding a partner" There are some discussions there that might be helpful for you. Also, if you contribute to those threads you may get some responses from people with the same problem.

No idea, if I get any info on the matter I will get back to you. Kind regards

So what do you think i should do. Because the Site Plenty of Fish is not working

I when't on planet rock dating as I found it important that they like the same music as me and I had payed for using it but I just got spamed. So I don't like them as much. There is this www.disabilitymatch.co.uk.. but again you have to pay and it didn't update my info, I spent about 20 odd minutes typing and it just lost everything only further hating dating sites

I feel extactly the same, I Just want to find a Girl i can treat like a princess, watch movies with, listen to music, go out on trips, take on holiday. And if im honest i don't know how i can do this as the dating sites i go on i get no messages and no replies. 

I Have the same issue! I lived next a beautiful girl but she is taken and has a little girl so I have no chance. I can't do dates and need to build confidence with a person online before I was ever to think to meet them face to face. I personally don't believe I even deserve to have a girlfriend as I have nothing to offer, comfort or security. I myself have no where to go.

I don't want to grow old and never having a partner, I don't want to look and say what if and I don't want to be a bitter person. My perents are getting older and when they are gone I will have no one. All my family live in Belguim and most have past, not reliable or just plan reject us. I have no good freands. I think every good person deserve someone! And I know how you feel about not having someone. Heck don't want the world, I don't care I'm not famous, I don't care that I don't have 20 sports cars or massive house. I want have an ordenry life that I can settle with and watch movies or listen to music or going for walks. Sorry but it's really draining and I'm getting tired. If I ever find something I will even put it on this site, experience what ever!

My sister is beautiful and her boyfriend doesn't even know lucky he is, guys like us would do anything we can for them, charish them and love there flaws. Sorry to go on but that's how I feel.