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Onceina Bluemoon

Hello everyone . 

Being part of an online community is a new thing for me , so I'm not quite sure how to begin . 

 Our lovely son is getting really good support from his NAS workers & is now really enjoying college . As a family , we really struggle to know how best to support him , mainly because he really doesn't want to talk about being on the spectrum & I think he is afraid of being labled . My daughter & I recently went to an excellent NAS conference in Reading & came back with some really helpful information & insight into why our son might do some things the way he does . For example , we've learned that some people shut down when they feel anxious or distressed ; which is why sometimes , our son just kills a skype call ; not because he wants to be rude or disrespectful , but because he finds open ended or generalised questions too complicated & stressful .

I was wondering if anyone might have any suggestions that might help us support him better ?

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    Some people with that score need a diagnosis - others are managing OK. It would be interesting to know what your son's and daughter's scores are - it is possible that he is just the same as you or has a higher score or lower. Genetics works randomly and the traits can be accentuated or reduced between the generations. I score 40 on the test but managed 56 years without a diagnosis - how well you manage depends on a lot of things in ones social (home and work) environments. I wound up in a bad workplace and it finally pushed me over the edge but I can see the signs in my work history and in my family history - there always was an eccentric thread running through the family.

    This knowledge about your own tendencies should throw a different light on your son's diagnosis.

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    Some people with that score need a diagnosis - others are managing OK. It would be interesting to know what your son's and daughter's scores are - it is possible that he is just the same as you or has a higher score or lower. Genetics works randomly and the traits can be accentuated or reduced between the generations. I score 40 on the test but managed 56 years without a diagnosis - how well you manage depends on a lot of things in ones social (home and work) environments. I wound up in a bad workplace and it finally pushed me over the edge but I can see the signs in my work history and in my family history - there always was an eccentric thread running through the family.

    This knowledge about your own tendencies should throw a different light on your son's diagnosis.

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