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Onceina Bluemoon

Hello everyone . 

Being part of an online community is a new thing for me , so I'm not quite sure how to begin . 

 Our lovely son is getting really good support from his NAS workers & is now really enjoying college . As a family , we really struggle to know how best to support him , mainly because he really doesn't want to talk about being on the spectrum & I think he is afraid of being labled . My daughter & I recently went to an excellent NAS conference in Reading & came back with some really helpful information & insight into why our son might do some things the way he does . For example , we've learned that some people shut down when they feel anxious or distressed ; which is why sometimes , our son just kills a skype call ; not because he wants to be rude or disrespectful , but because he finds open ended or generalised questions too complicated & stressful .

I was wondering if anyone might have any suggestions that might help us support him better ?

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  • Hello . Thank you very much for your reply . Your suggestions are very helpful . I had not considered that having a label is a confirmation of having problems & that must feel very uncomfortable . It feels quite a relief to just live life , rather than feeling a need to refer to our son's  aspergers & I think he will value doing things differently too .

    I have often thought that I might have some traits ; my father was definitely on the spectrum & it was very revealing to take the AQTest ; I scored 32! 

    Kind regards

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  • Hello . Thank you very much for your reply . Your suggestions are very helpful . I had not considered that having a label is a confirmation of having problems & that must feel very uncomfortable . It feels quite a relief to just live life , rather than feeling a need to refer to our son's  aspergers & I think he will value doing things differently too .

    I have often thought that I might have some traits ; my father was definitely on the spectrum & it was very revealing to take the AQTest ; I scored 32! 

    Kind regards

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