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Onceina Bluemoon

Hello everyone . 

Being part of an online community is a new thing for me , so I'm not quite sure how to begin . 

 Our lovely son is getting really good support from his NAS workers & is now really enjoying college . As a family , we really struggle to know how best to support him , mainly because he really doesn't want to talk about being on the spectrum & I think he is afraid of being labled . My daughter & I recently went to an excellent NAS conference in Reading & came back with some really helpful information & insight into why our son might do some things the way he does . For example , we've learned that some people shut down when they feel anxious or distressed ; which is why sometimes , our son just kills a skype call ; not because he wants to be rude or disrespectful , but because he finds open ended or generalised questions too complicated & stressful .

I was wondering if anyone might have any suggestions that might help us support him better ?

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    Welcome to the community

    Having a label is definitely a two-edged sword - it brings benefits but it also brings confirmation that one has enough problems to require a label. Sometimes it may be better to get on with life rather than fretting about the autism bit of it. If he is continually reminded of it when you talk to him then he may feel more pressure. Perhaps you should try to wait for him to raise this as a subject rather than starting conversations about it?

    As a family, can you see who else might be on the spectrum? Autism is frequently an inherited condition that may be less severe, but still present, in other family members. Are you aware of the free test at aspergerstest.net/.../ This is a reliable and respectable test to identify people's tendencies. It does not identify whether some has enough of a problem that requires a diagnosis.

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    Welcome to the community

    Having a label is definitely a two-edged sword - it brings benefits but it also brings confirmation that one has enough problems to require a label. Sometimes it may be better to get on with life rather than fretting about the autism bit of it. If he is continually reminded of it when you talk to him then he may feel more pressure. Perhaps you should try to wait for him to raise this as a subject rather than starting conversations about it?

    As a family, can you see who else might be on the spectrum? Autism is frequently an inherited condition that may be less severe, but still present, in other family members. Are you aware of the free test at aspergerstest.net/.../ This is a reliable and respectable test to identify people's tendencies. It does not identify whether some has enough of a problem that requires a diagnosis.

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