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Marriages and partnerships

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I'm aware that there are people on the autism spectrum who struggle to get dates or to find someone they connect with.

I'm married to another aspie, but we met through mutual friends when we were in our late teens, so neither of us had to try hard to find someone. 

So I wondered if people who are married or in partnerships would be prepared to share their experiences of how they met, whether their partner is also on the spectrum, and anything else they think might be useful to people wanting to find that special person to share their life with. 

I have quite a practical approach - I couldn't wait to be asked out, I might have lost patience, so I made the first move and suggested we see each other on a trial basis and it went from there. It's been the best thing that ever happened to me,  and I do like to hear about people getting together... I guess that despite despising "love story" novels and movies, I actually might be a bit of a romantic aspie??? 

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    Former Member

    One more thought is that we can be extra sensitive to criticism. If she makes a remark then you can actually choose to not take it any more personally than you need to. (being able to exercise choice is a really powerful tool in making you happy) I don't mean that you have to ignore what she says but you can learn to shrug things off and remember that you are being sensitive. If you stop yourself from rising to these challenging comments then she might learn to lay off a bit.

    HTH :-)

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  • Former Member
    Former Member

    One more thought is that we can be extra sensitive to criticism. If she makes a remark then you can actually choose to not take it any more personally than you need to. (being able to exercise choice is a really powerful tool in making you happy) I don't mean that you have to ignore what she says but you can learn to shrug things off and remember that you are being sensitive. If you stop yourself from rising to these challenging comments then she might learn to lay off a bit.

    HTH :-)

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