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Marriages and partnerships

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I'm aware that there are people on the autism spectrum who struggle to get dates or to find someone they connect with.

I'm married to another aspie, but we met through mutual friends when we were in our late teens, so neither of us had to try hard to find someone. 

So I wondered if people who are married or in partnerships would be prepared to share their experiences of how they met, whether their partner is also on the spectrum, and anything else they think might be useful to people wanting to find that special person to share their life with. 

I have quite a practical approach - I couldn't wait to be asked out, I might have lost patience, so I made the first move and suggested we see each other on a trial basis and it went from there. It's been the best thing that ever happened to me,  and I do like to hear about people getting together... I guess that despite despising "love story" novels and movies, I actually might be a bit of a romantic aspie??? 

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  • Yeah something needs to be done about that, so I will do my best for that.

    In terms of difficulty forgetting the past, it's the same here, I completely forget, while she won't. I do say a lot of inappropriate things, and despite the awareness of my diagnosis of autism, it still seems I am treated a little unfairly. The thing is, like you say, there is no forgive and forget, and even though I could, I can't because it's a constant thing for her. Hmm.. I think the best thing I have taken from this is to not ignore things as much, but other than that I don't know how things will go :(

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  • Yeah something needs to be done about that, so I will do my best for that.

    In terms of difficulty forgetting the past, it's the same here, I completely forget, while she won't. I do say a lot of inappropriate things, and despite the awareness of my diagnosis of autism, it still seems I am treated a little unfairly. The thing is, like you say, there is no forgive and forget, and even though I could, I can't because it's a constant thing for her. Hmm.. I think the best thing I have taken from this is to not ignore things as much, but other than that I don't know how things will go :(

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