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Marriages and partnerships

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I'm aware that there are people on the autism spectrum who struggle to get dates or to find someone they connect with.

I'm married to another aspie, but we met through mutual friends when we were in our late teens, so neither of us had to try hard to find someone. 

So I wondered if people who are married or in partnerships would be prepared to share their experiences of how they met, whether their partner is also on the spectrum, and anything else they think might be useful to people wanting to find that special person to share their life with. 

I have quite a practical approach - I couldn't wait to be asked out, I might have lost patience, so I made the first move and suggested we see each other on a trial basis and it went from there. It's been the best thing that ever happened to me,  and I do like to hear about people getting together... I guess that despite despising "love story" novels and movies, I actually might be a bit of a romantic aspie??? 

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    My first reaction to this story is that it does not sound as though it is a happy and healthy relationship. The lack of trust and continuous blame culture will, if unaddressed, destroy the relationship sooner or later. Continuously giving in to her is not actually good for her as she will get further and further from reality and what is reasonable as time progresses. I think this may be how OCD issues raise themselves sometimes - if you watch Obsessive Compulsive Cleaners on TV you may see examples of this.

    Her attitude may be due to mental health issues which may lead her into very negative thinking. If her depression is not resolved then this needs to be looked at first.

    I think you might try and go to relationship counselling sessions. I have never done this but I don't see much alternative.

    The worst thing to do is to do nothing and hope that it will resolve itself.

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  • Former Member
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    My first reaction to this story is that it does not sound as though it is a happy and healthy relationship. The lack of trust and continuous blame culture will, if unaddressed, destroy the relationship sooner or later. Continuously giving in to her is not actually good for her as she will get further and further from reality and what is reasonable as time progresses. I think this may be how OCD issues raise themselves sometimes - if you watch Obsessive Compulsive Cleaners on TV you may see examples of this.

    Her attitude may be due to mental health issues which may lead her into very negative thinking. If her depression is not resolved then this needs to be looked at first.

    I think you might try and go to relationship counselling sessions. I have never done this but I don't see much alternative.

    The worst thing to do is to do nothing and hope that it will resolve itself.

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