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Autism and relationships

Peafowl

Hi Everyone,

I have a problem with relationships and was wondering if i could have some advice   I have always struggled to make friends let alone try intimate relationships.  I am 27 and have never had a close circle of friends or a boyfriend.  I have aways struggled as i was bullied all through school and then i had College and University to occupy my time. 

It is geting  harder now that i have a part time job and seeing all of my brothers and sisters start their own careers and lives.  My second youngest brother is married and has a little girl.  It has been hard to come to terms wih the fact that this is something i may never have. 

My problem is that i sturggle to read signals and i do not explain the way i feel very well.  I also do not like physical contact i can become violent if i am touched although this isnt as bad anymore.  Physical contact like cuddling isnt nice it can sometimes hurt and it is uncomfortable. 

I really do not know what to do or what support is out there for me.

Do you have any advice.

  • Hi Delighted,

    Thank you for your reply i will try tto do this.

    Thank you

    Peafowl

  • Never give up...you never know what the future may hold, perhaps one day you will meet the dream person that you desire.

    In the meantime, you could perhaps focus on the weaknesses that you may have such as reading a person ( facical expressions ) or as you said that you stuggle to express your feelings.  Imagine that you are with a special person and think about how you would express your thinking and feeling to that special person.

    You mentioned that you do not like to have a physical contact and this is acceptable and ensure that you tell this person about your likes / dislikes so they are aware of your situation which then they will accept it.

    Good luck