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Newbie with lots of questions

GBEM

Hi all,

This is completely new to me so I'm sort of taking a leap of faith to speak to other like minded individuals and people with a little more insight than i have.

I am a 33 year old woman and for several years now, the idea of Aspergers has been at the back of my head.  Recently I have read some research about how Aspergers may present differently in women and girls and some of the hallmarks of girls with Aspergers just sound so, so familiar to me -it's incredible.  Even my partner has agreed that all these behaviours are me to a T.  Family have said to me I can't possibly be on the spectrum as I am 'normal', I drive a car, I have a job, I interact normally with others but this simply doesn't ring true -my whole life I have felt 'other' with no way to explain it and I am just worried if I broach my GP with these concerns, I'll be written off as a hypochondriac, or someone who has social anxiety.

Any pointers, or any comments would be most welcome.  Completely in the dark.

 

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  • Both of your experiences have similarities to mine and it is great to see the perspective of other females with autism/aspergers. I am 23 and was diagnosed a year ago after years of anxiety, depression, social problems and 'not quite fitting in'.

    I only realised after my sister was diagnosed and since then both me and my mother (49) have been diagnosed. We had a lot of trouble getting help for my sister and a diagnosis only came after an admittance to hospital.

    Me and my mum got diagnosed privately by an expert purely because we knew that our doctors weren't very believing, as we are both articulate and have jobs e.c.t. Obviously that's not an option for everyone. However, I would reccommend gathering as much information about aspergers and about yourself and your experiences which fit the diagnosis. The more evidence you have to hand, the more likely they will listen to you.I was previously diagnosed with depression and anxiety but those symptoms were purely the result of years of acting 'normal' to the detriment of my physical and mental health.

    I'm sorry to hear GBEM that your family aren't supportive. I can really identify with that putting on of a 'normal' person when inside you feel completely 'other'. Hopefully, the awareness of the different presentation in females will continue to raise in profile and stamp out the stereotype that people have!

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  • Both of your experiences have similarities to mine and it is great to see the perspective of other females with autism/aspergers. I am 23 and was diagnosed a year ago after years of anxiety, depression, social problems and 'not quite fitting in'.

    I only realised after my sister was diagnosed and since then both me and my mother (49) have been diagnosed. We had a lot of trouble getting help for my sister and a diagnosis only came after an admittance to hospital.

    Me and my mum got diagnosed privately by an expert purely because we knew that our doctors weren't very believing, as we are both articulate and have jobs e.c.t. Obviously that's not an option for everyone. However, I would reccommend gathering as much information about aspergers and about yourself and your experiences which fit the diagnosis. The more evidence you have to hand, the more likely they will listen to you.I was previously diagnosed with depression and anxiety but those symptoms were purely the result of years of acting 'normal' to the detriment of my physical and mental health.

    I'm sorry to hear GBEM that your family aren't supportive. I can really identify with that putting on of a 'normal' person when inside you feel completely 'other'. Hopefully, the awareness of the different presentation in females will continue to raise in profile and stamp out the stereotype that people have!

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