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Tryingtounderstand

Hi. I recently met my now ex partner on a dating site, we met up and the realtionship went really well, he told me he had austism which didnt bother me, it made him him! Yesterday I received a text message telling me he didnt want the relationship, i thought fine,  after 6 months i want an explation, we met up & he explained that he is still in love with me but the austism is stopping his ability to be in a relationship, we have agreed  stay friends however I need to understand? I'm hoping someone can shed some light on this situation for me? 

Thanks T

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  • as I know him on a personal level I believe i would know if he didn't want to be with me. And yes you are correct he has never said this? 

    I took your advice and wrote him a letter explaining exactly how I felt, as sometimes what I want to say in my head doesn't come out loads of Nasty vile words come out. And he text this morning again apologising for what and how he's done it, I put some of your points across. E.g. Testing me, thinking he can't give me the life I 'want' & his reply was that seems solid I'm not ready to talk yet though. And I'm going to respect that. 

    But on the other hand he's never had someone consistent in his life, mom, dad sister come and go as they please. I plan on staying around even as just a friendship to let him know I'm not giving up on him and I have faith in him. 

    When we was together he formed an amazing bond with my mom, she has said she's going to text him/phone him in a couple of days to just check in to let him know people care? 

    in your opinion is this the correct step to make? 

    Your advice is extrem helpful, im just so worried 

    thanks

    T 

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  • as I know him on a personal level I believe i would know if he didn't want to be with me. And yes you are correct he has never said this? 

    I took your advice and wrote him a letter explaining exactly how I felt, as sometimes what I want to say in my head doesn't come out loads of Nasty vile words come out. And he text this morning again apologising for what and how he's done it, I put some of your points across. E.g. Testing me, thinking he can't give me the life I 'want' & his reply was that seems solid I'm not ready to talk yet though. And I'm going to respect that. 

    But on the other hand he's never had someone consistent in his life, mom, dad sister come and go as they please. I plan on staying around even as just a friendship to let him know I'm not giving up on him and I have faith in him. 

    When we was together he formed an amazing bond with my mom, she has said she's going to text him/phone him in a couple of days to just check in to let him know people care? 

    in your opinion is this the correct step to make? 

    Your advice is extrem helpful, im just so worried 

    thanks

    T 

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