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Tryingtounderstand

Hi. I recently met my now ex partner on a dating site, we met up and the realtionship went really well, he told me he had austism which didnt bother me, it made him him! Yesterday I received a text message telling me he didnt want the relationship, i thought fine,  after 6 months i want an explation, we met up & he explained that he is still in love with me but the austism is stopping his ability to be in a relationship, we have agreed  stay friends however I need to understand? I'm hoping someone can shed some light on this situation for me? 

Thanks T

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  • I have never had to question whethe he loves me, I know he's completely head over heels in love with me, he used to lay awake for hours at night when I was fast asleep just watching me and talking to me, at first I found that weird, but I understood eventually. 

    i never mentioned to him that I wanted a 'perfect life' as he would call it,  used to keep it in my head as I never wanted to put pressure on him. He always said he never wanted children, that was fine with me, I was willing and still willing to give up children for him. 

    What I can't get right in my head is that he wanted the relationship he asked me to be with him and was the first one to say he loved me, so I don't understand how he can do that then do this?

    all your comments are really helping me, I feel like I'm able to get in his head a little. I have never had any previous experience with Autism, and maybe I didn't know what I was letting myself in for. 

    The love I have for him is so immense I wish he would understand that, he may think that he will let me down, or not give me what i deserve but do I get no say in this?

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  • I have never had to question whethe he loves me, I know he's completely head over heels in love with me, he used to lay awake for hours at night when I was fast asleep just watching me and talking to me, at first I found that weird, but I understood eventually. 

    i never mentioned to him that I wanted a 'perfect life' as he would call it,  used to keep it in my head as I never wanted to put pressure on him. He always said he never wanted children, that was fine with me, I was willing and still willing to give up children for him. 

    What I can't get right in my head is that he wanted the relationship he asked me to be with him and was the first one to say he loved me, so I don't understand how he can do that then do this?

    all your comments are really helping me, I feel like I'm able to get in his head a little. I have never had any previous experience with Autism, and maybe I didn't know what I was letting myself in for. 

    The love I have for him is so immense I wish he would understand that, he may think that he will let me down, or not give me what i deserve but do I get no say in this?

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