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Trying to understand?

Tryingtounderstand

Hi. I recently met my now ex partner on a dating site, we met up and the realtionship went really well, he told me he had austism which didnt bother me, it made him him! Yesterday I received a text message telling me he didnt want the relationship, i thought fine,  after 6 months i want an explation, we met up & he explained that he is still in love with me but the austism is stopping his ability to be in a relationship, we have agreed  stay friends however I need to understand? I'm hoping someone can shed some light on this situation for me? 

Thanks T

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  • Hi T

    Maybe it's to do with something one of his friends has said? Maybe they are jealous of you, or maybe they've teased him good naturedly if he's ever chosen to see you rather than them? 

    Another idea is that he might be testing how much you care about him (maybe unconsciously, not necessarily deliberately) 

    John made some good points about how he can't deal with difficult situations by discussing them. Perhaps you could try writing your partner an email in which you are totally honest and open about what you think and what you want, and ask him what he honestly wants. This will enable him to read and think about it, which a face to face discussion won't. Rather than discussing feelings, stick to facts, thoughts, ideas and beliefs (e g. I love you,  I think we should try and make it work, I believe we could have a great future together) 

    I can't guarantee anything I've suggested will be any help and I know it must be very painful for you, but try not to give up yet. 

    Take care,  Pixie.

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  • Hi T

    Maybe it's to do with something one of his friends has said? Maybe they are jealous of you, or maybe they've teased him good naturedly if he's ever chosen to see you rather than them? 

    Another idea is that he might be testing how much you care about him (maybe unconsciously, not necessarily deliberately) 

    John made some good points about how he can't deal with difficult situations by discussing them. Perhaps you could try writing your partner an email in which you are totally honest and open about what you think and what you want, and ask him what he honestly wants. This will enable him to read and think about it, which a face to face discussion won't. Rather than discussing feelings, stick to facts, thoughts, ideas and beliefs (e g. I love you,  I think we should try and make it work, I believe we could have a great future together) 

    I can't guarantee anything I've suggested will be any help and I know it must be very painful for you, but try not to give up yet. 

    Take care,  Pixie.

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