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Self diagnosed Aspie

Robin Banks

Hi all, i'm looking for a bit of advice, i guess.  I recently bought a book on Aspergers to learn about a condition we think my son has.  Someone who knows me well said, 'that's you' just before i started it.  That comment barely registered.  Then i started the book and got the shock of my life.  It was like reading my life story!  Everything slowly dropped into place; always been a bit different, crap at sport as a kid, last one to be picked for games, on the outskirts of the group or ostracised, etc.  Each section of the book revealed more connections.  I have no doubt i have Aspergers Syndrome despite having done the Cambridge test and getting 24.  I believe i have trained myself into different ways of thinking.  I have over ridden a lot of the traits with my mnd in an attaempt to fit in; to be Neuro typical.  Does this ring true for anybody else?  I was thinking get a diagnosis but am now thinking it will be too much hassle.  What kind of help could it be to do that?  I live a fully functional working life already.  I have some daily anxiety around a particular issue but how many people don't?  Any thoughts welcome, please.  Thank you.

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  • Hi Robin,

    Yes, what you have said rings true for many undiagnosed adults, just that you have had more experience to develop coping strategies for yourself. I was diagnosed last year at 49, my intention for doing that was to get some more help with counsueling for my anxiety and depression. I have found in past few years, I have been less able to cope in general. I think that has been partly down to pressures on modern living, and how aspergers is evolving as I grow older. I am finding telephone conversations increasingly difficult, I can do them, but it takes a lot of emotional effort to get through it. 

    I am still fighting for the extra support and it has been over six months since my diagnosis. I think in general I am glad I got the diagnosis, I scored borderline on the online tests, but my diagnosis has shown that I am well past that level. 

    I wish I had the diagnosis much earlier in life, I have had extreme difficulties building relationships, to the point I have mostly been alone. I managed to start 3 relationships but if you add the length of all them together it is under a year.

    It affects everyone differently, am I have been surprised to see how others on the spectrum have been able to build relationships

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  • Hi Robin,

    Yes, what you have said rings true for many undiagnosed adults, just that you have had more experience to develop coping strategies for yourself. I was diagnosed last year at 49, my intention for doing that was to get some more help with counsueling for my anxiety and depression. I have found in past few years, I have been less able to cope in general. I think that has been partly down to pressures on modern living, and how aspergers is evolving as I grow older. I am finding telephone conversations increasingly difficult, I can do them, but it takes a lot of emotional effort to get through it. 

    I am still fighting for the extra support and it has been over six months since my diagnosis. I think in general I am glad I got the diagnosis, I scored borderline on the online tests, but my diagnosis has shown that I am well past that level. 

    I wish I had the diagnosis much earlier in life, I have had extreme difficulties building relationships, to the point I have mostly been alone. I managed to start 3 relationships but if you add the length of all them together it is under a year.

    It affects everyone differently, am I have been surprised to see how others on the spectrum have been able to build relationships

    Random

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