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Getting Help Living Independently With AS

RareOne94

Okay, so I was diagnosed with Aspergers back when I was about 13/14. Long story short, within weeks of being diagnosed social services was informed and I was assigned a support worker and I was referred to my nearest mental health hospital to attend a weekly support group for teens with high functioning autism. Within months of receiving this support it was found that "I no longer needed support". 

Shortly before I turned 17 things broke down at home and I was kicked out of both my mothers and my fathers home. For some reason my local council wouldn't help me at the time so I ended up staying with friends for a few months before my mum agreed to let me come home, but that didn't last very long. Both me and my mum went to our local council to get them to help and they put me in a homeless hostel then got me my own place. While at the homeless hostel I was meant to receive help and support to make the transition into my flat easier, they were also meant to get me a support worker from a local charity to help me as soon as I moved in. None of which happened.

 

It's now been 4 years since I moved into my flat and I have been served with an eviction notice twice and taken to court due to many reasons (condition of the flat, rent/service charge arrears among other things), it is only because my mother has helped me each time have I been able to get out of them issues, but as she works full time she can't give me the support I need.

 

It has now got to the point where I'm in desperate need of help but I've read many times and seen many petitions online regarding young adults with high functioning autism being sectioned under the mental health act for extended periods without valid reasoning, and I'm petrified that if I ask my local social services for help that I will get sectioned as I almost was back in September by the police after they visited me when I was reported missing due to having a breakdown in August where I didn't speak to anyone or leave my flat for over a month.

 

What I'm trying to get at is, can anyone give me any advice as to how I can go about getting the help that I really need?

 

Please, any advice would be appreciated.

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    I agree with True Colors that there are limits to what you can do with a self help book but we are left with the problem of how to make a case for getting more help and how to identify what help you might want. I think that organising the task of "getting help" is something that you can tackle with a self help book. Getting help can be a project which can benefit from research and planning and thinking ahead. This is the sort of small task that the Gaus book helps you to understand that you can tackle yourself.

    Getting things organised and tackled is a thing that we are really bad at. Procrastination and poor "executive function" means that things pile up and don't get dealt with. I am really bad at project management but now, late in life, I can see that I have a problem with it and I can do some small things (I am constantly keeping notes and setting reminders in my smartphone) to actually address my deficient skills and tendencies in that department. When I get something done (even something apparently trivial) I chalk it up as a one step forward moment and at the end of the day I can be satisfied that I have at least done something to keep my world in order.

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    I agree with True Colors that there are limits to what you can do with a self help book but we are left with the problem of how to make a case for getting more help and how to identify what help you might want. I think that organising the task of "getting help" is something that you can tackle with a self help book. Getting help can be a project which can benefit from research and planning and thinking ahead. This is the sort of small task that the Gaus book helps you to understand that you can tackle yourself.

    Getting things organised and tackled is a thing that we are really bad at. Procrastination and poor "executive function" means that things pile up and don't get dealt with. I am really bad at project management but now, late in life, I can see that I have a problem with it and I can do some small things (I am constantly keeping notes and setting reminders in my smartphone) to actually address my deficient skills and tendencies in that department. When I get something done (even something apparently trivial) I chalk it up as a one step forward moment and at the end of the day I can be satisfied that I have at least done something to keep my world in order.

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