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Getting Help Living Independently With AS

RareOne94

Okay, so I was diagnosed with Aspergers back when I was about 13/14. Long story short, within weeks of being diagnosed social services was informed and I was assigned a support worker and I was referred to my nearest mental health hospital to attend a weekly support group for teens with high functioning autism. Within months of receiving this support it was found that "I no longer needed support". 

Shortly before I turned 17 things broke down at home and I was kicked out of both my mothers and my fathers home. For some reason my local council wouldn't help me at the time so I ended up staying with friends for a few months before my mum agreed to let me come home, but that didn't last very long. Both me and my mum went to our local council to get them to help and they put me in a homeless hostel then got me my own place. While at the homeless hostel I was meant to receive help and support to make the transition into my flat easier, they were also meant to get me a support worker from a local charity to help me as soon as I moved in. None of which happened.

 

It's now been 4 years since I moved into my flat and I have been served with an eviction notice twice and taken to court due to many reasons (condition of the flat, rent/service charge arrears among other things), it is only because my mother has helped me each time have I been able to get out of them issues, but as she works full time she can't give me the support I need.

 

It has now got to the point where I'm in desperate need of help but I've read many times and seen many petitions online regarding young adults with high functioning autism being sectioned under the mental health act for extended periods without valid reasoning, and I'm petrified that if I ask my local social services for help that I will get sectioned as I almost was back in September by the police after they visited me when I was reported missing due to having a breakdown in August where I didn't speak to anyone or leave my flat for over a month.

 

What I'm trying to get at is, can anyone give me any advice as to how I can go about getting the help that I really need?

 

Please, any advice would be appreciated.

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  • Seems to me that at least part of your problems are based dealing with finances. You might find a visit to citizens advice a good start to try and find a way to resolve those or at least ease off the burden.

    You are at that age where there are massive changes taking place, and that causes a lot of additional stress and pressue for people with aspergers.

    I get very angry at housing situation in this country, and the difficulties and pressures that puts on people, aspergers and NTs included. Dealing with landlord and other issues, still causes me a lot of stress these days. I did "own" my home in the 90s with a mortgage, that was less stressful managing the property and not having to deal with landlords, but I had to sell that after 5 years because my company had financial problems, and I could not find another job in commutable distance.

    I have been diagnosed with aspergers at 49, and have lived independantly since I was 24. Before that I was either in shared accomodation, or was a "lodger" with a family from around 16. It was a big change for me, but no big challenges as far as living independantly was concerned. It was a slower transition from family life in to independant living for me compared to your situation.

    Today, I too am having problems accessing the help I need through my diagnosis, and after my diagnosis. I did have a mental breakdown around 20 years ago, and hit similar problems, let down with support.

    For past 2-3 years I have had problems looking after my home, I used to be on top of all that. I've just had so much happen I simply just can't cope with it all. We all have our limits, and I feel with aspergers we hit that limit much sooner than nt would experience. I'm not sure what the solution for that is, I hope it makes it a little easier knowing others struggle with the same things.

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  • Seems to me that at least part of your problems are based dealing with finances. You might find a visit to citizens advice a good start to try and find a way to resolve those or at least ease off the burden.

    You are at that age where there are massive changes taking place, and that causes a lot of additional stress and pressue for people with aspergers.

    I get very angry at housing situation in this country, and the difficulties and pressures that puts on people, aspergers and NTs included. Dealing with landlord and other issues, still causes me a lot of stress these days. I did "own" my home in the 90s with a mortgage, that was less stressful managing the property and not having to deal with landlords, but I had to sell that after 5 years because my company had financial problems, and I could not find another job in commutable distance.

    I have been diagnosed with aspergers at 49, and have lived independantly since I was 24. Before that I was either in shared accomodation, or was a "lodger" with a family from around 16. It was a big change for me, but no big challenges as far as living independantly was concerned. It was a slower transition from family life in to independant living for me compared to your situation.

    Today, I too am having problems accessing the help I need through my diagnosis, and after my diagnosis. I did have a mental breakdown around 20 years ago, and hit similar problems, let down with support.

    For past 2-3 years I have had problems looking after my home, I used to be on top of all that. I've just had so much happen I simply just can't cope with it all. We all have our limits, and I feel with aspergers we hit that limit much sooner than nt would experience. I'm not sure what the solution for that is, I hope it makes it a little easier knowing others struggle with the same things.

    Random

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