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Getting Help Living Independently With AS

RareOne94

Okay, so I was diagnosed with Aspergers back when I was about 13/14. Long story short, within weeks of being diagnosed social services was informed and I was assigned a support worker and I was referred to my nearest mental health hospital to attend a weekly support group for teens with high functioning autism. Within months of receiving this support it was found that "I no longer needed support". 

Shortly before I turned 17 things broke down at home and I was kicked out of both my mothers and my fathers home. For some reason my local council wouldn't help me at the time so I ended up staying with friends for a few months before my mum agreed to let me come home, but that didn't last very long. Both me and my mum went to our local council to get them to help and they put me in a homeless hostel then got me my own place. While at the homeless hostel I was meant to receive help and support to make the transition into my flat easier, they were also meant to get me a support worker from a local charity to help me as soon as I moved in. None of which happened.

 

It's now been 4 years since I moved into my flat and I have been served with an eviction notice twice and taken to court due to many reasons (condition of the flat, rent/service charge arrears among other things), it is only because my mother has helped me each time have I been able to get out of them issues, but as she works full time she can't give me the support I need.

 

It has now got to the point where I'm in desperate need of help but I've read many times and seen many petitions online regarding young adults with high functioning autism being sectioned under the mental health act for extended periods without valid reasoning, and I'm petrified that if I ask my local social services for help that I will get sectioned as I almost was back in September by the police after they visited me when I was reported missing due to having a breakdown in August where I didn't speak to anyone or leave my flat for over a month.

 

What I'm trying to get at is, can anyone give me any advice as to how I can go about getting the help that I really need?

 

Please, any advice would be appreciated.

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  • I don't think you understand recombinantsocks, I don't come from a chaotic and conflicted home, while my home life may not have "ended" well, it only became conflicted when I was around 15/16, shortly before being kicked out, while my parents were divorced, they were always civilised towards eachother, while there were the occasional arguments we all got on (again up until I was around 15/16) and the reason for everything changing when I was that age was due to my mum getting re-married and my new stepdad not really understanding AS, (my mum and late stepdad didn't understand at first, and neither did I to be frank, they had help from social services on understanding and coping with me having AS) things got complicated.

    I know none of this is really anyones fault, it's just something out of your control that you just have to sort of learn to cope and manage, and that's the issue I have... I have no idea how to cope, I can barely manage to get by on a day to day basis, nobody I know really understands so all they can do is just listen and say the usual "things will get better" and all that which to be honest makes me feel worse because I've been hearing that for quite a few years now but things have only gotten worse, and I just can't take it anymore! I just wanna scream, cry, punch something, lock myself away in my flat, just to try and get away from it all, but I know it will only make things worse as I've done it before and it made things 10 times worse!

    All I want is help and I've tried getting it, but just explaining my issues causes me to get extremely frustrated and wanting to cry (I almost have broken down crying on the phone before now trying to get help)

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  • I don't think you understand recombinantsocks, I don't come from a chaotic and conflicted home, while my home life may not have "ended" well, it only became conflicted when I was around 15/16, shortly before being kicked out, while my parents were divorced, they were always civilised towards eachother, while there were the occasional arguments we all got on (again up until I was around 15/16) and the reason for everything changing when I was that age was due to my mum getting re-married and my new stepdad not really understanding AS, (my mum and late stepdad didn't understand at first, and neither did I to be frank, they had help from social services on understanding and coping with me having AS) things got complicated.

    I know none of this is really anyones fault, it's just something out of your control that you just have to sort of learn to cope and manage, and that's the issue I have... I have no idea how to cope, I can barely manage to get by on a day to day basis, nobody I know really understands so all they can do is just listen and say the usual "things will get better" and all that which to be honest makes me feel worse because I've been hearing that for quite a few years now but things have only gotten worse, and I just can't take it anymore! I just wanna scream, cry, punch something, lock myself away in my flat, just to try and get away from it all, but I know it will only make things worse as I've done it before and it made things 10 times worse!

    All I want is help and I've tried getting it, but just explaining my issues causes me to get extremely frustrated and wanting to cry (I almost have broken down crying on the phone before now trying to get help)

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