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Getting Help Living Independently With AS

RareOne94

Okay, so I was diagnosed with Aspergers back when I was about 13/14. Long story short, within weeks of being diagnosed social services was informed and I was assigned a support worker and I was referred to my nearest mental health hospital to attend a weekly support group for teens with high functioning autism. Within months of receiving this support it was found that "I no longer needed support". 

Shortly before I turned 17 things broke down at home and I was kicked out of both my mothers and my fathers home. For some reason my local council wouldn't help me at the time so I ended up staying with friends for a few months before my mum agreed to let me come home, but that didn't last very long. Both me and my mum went to our local council to get them to help and they put me in a homeless hostel then got me my own place. While at the homeless hostel I was meant to receive help and support to make the transition into my flat easier, they were also meant to get me a support worker from a local charity to help me as soon as I moved in. None of which happened.

 

It's now been 4 years since I moved into my flat and I have been served with an eviction notice twice and taken to court due to many reasons (condition of the flat, rent/service charge arrears among other things), it is only because my mother has helped me each time have I been able to get out of them issues, but as she works full time she can't give me the support I need.

 

It has now got to the point where I'm in desperate need of help but I've read many times and seen many petitions online regarding young adults with high functioning autism being sectioned under the mental health act for extended periods without valid reasoning, and I'm petrified that if I ask my local social services for help that I will get sectioned as I almost was back in September by the police after they visited me when I was reported missing due to having a breakdown in August where I didn't speak to anyone or leave my flat for over a month.

 

What I'm trying to get at is, can anyone give me any advice as to how I can go about getting the help that I really need?

 

Please, any advice would be appreciated.

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    Hi RareOne,

    Welcome to the forum. Your story is typical, in many ways, of life as an autistic person. You have come from a chaotic and conflictful home, your parents are separated, nobody gets on with anyone else and it is all baffling and you end up living a chaotic adult life.

    How much have you read about autism and how much do you understand why your life has been like this?

    What I must say at this point that none of this is your, or anyone else's, fault. Autism causes conflict and it causes people to have chaotic lives but nobody has consciously tried to make your life hard and nobody has tried to make your parents' life hard. We are in a sense programmed by our genes to struggle to understand other people but if you understand this then you can work on understanding yourself and others and try to have a better life than your childhood would lead you to expect.

    I hope this makes sense? I was diagnosed 2 years ago and can see how autism has caused serious issues and conflict in my family over several generations. With the knowledge that is available nowadays about how it works I am very happy to use this knoweldge to avoid, and work around, trouble that might have caused me problems in the past.

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    Hi RareOne,

    Welcome to the forum. Your story is typical, in many ways, of life as an autistic person. You have come from a chaotic and conflictful home, your parents are separated, nobody gets on with anyone else and it is all baffling and you end up living a chaotic adult life.

    How much have you read about autism and how much do you understand why your life has been like this?

    What I must say at this point that none of this is your, or anyone else's, fault. Autism causes conflict and it causes people to have chaotic lives but nobody has consciously tried to make your life hard and nobody has tried to make your parents' life hard. We are in a sense programmed by our genes to struggle to understand other people but if you understand this then you can work on understanding yourself and others and try to have a better life than your childhood would lead you to expect.

    I hope this makes sense? I was diagnosed 2 years ago and can see how autism has caused serious issues and conflict in my family over several generations. With the knowledge that is available nowadays about how it works I am very happy to use this knoweldge to avoid, and work around, trouble that might have caused me problems in the past.

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