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Is it worth a diagnosis

WhatsNext1980

Hi,

so, brief history of me - I have a job, reasonably successful but struggle with social and relationships. I confuse what people are saying with what I think they mean, I hide in a corner or with very familiar people at any social function, I get very upset when what I think the 'rule am are get broken - lateness for example. In relationships I struggle to talk and communicate and arguments never start, I simply stop talking and try and hide. If I get pushed/pressed it makesme worse. I have one friend who I talk to every day but he knows me well and ignores or looks over some of my oddities and is always ready to switch topics or talk over my silence when needed.

what I'm trying to decide is whether there's value in a diagnosis... Reading a book recently made me think ' yes - they're describing me. Someone who finally thinks like I do' but do i need someone to confirm it or do I just work on the assumption that I am ? My job won't change, I don't need financial support, I'm high functioning ... But would it help socially and relationship wise to be able to tell people I'm a little different? Would it help me understand me better if it was confirmed ? 

Im not sure I can cope with NHS waiting lairs and a private diagnosis seems to be £2,500 ... I would just appreciate people's thoughts or if there's a cheaper option if I want a 'non-formal' diagnosis as its not like i need to convince the goverment I need support?

please - I'd appreciate the thoughts of others who have been making this journey longer than me ?

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  • Anonymous
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    I got diagnosed at aged 49. I sort of hit a brick wall in my life and just could not get out of a hole so needed t know. My biggest concern is my children, not if they are also asd, but if my having aspergers could have damaged them. Both my kids seem well adjusted and I certainly do not believe that people with aspergers lack empathy. I have been told I actually have too much. I care too much that I break and then I cannot function at all. 

    I have worked in the past, I dont now and am happy not to. I have got myself into lots of difficulties out there which is why I wanted a diagnosis. I look back now and firmly believe that if I had someone that understood aspergers around me and got me lots of these difficulties would never have happened and I myself would have understood myself better an not beat myself so much to fit in.

    I am now learning to accept myself, it will take time though because I no longer have to act it all out. Therefore I don't get physically ill ftom trying to fit into the typical world. I think to myself now you can try and fit into mine or better still we can compromise somehow. 

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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous

    I got diagnosed at aged 49. I sort of hit a brick wall in my life and just could not get out of a hole so needed t know. My biggest concern is my children, not if they are also asd, but if my having aspergers could have damaged them. Both my kids seem well adjusted and I certainly do not believe that people with aspergers lack empathy. I have been told I actually have too much. I care too much that I break and then I cannot function at all. 

    I have worked in the past, I dont now and am happy not to. I have got myself into lots of difficulties out there which is why I wanted a diagnosis. I look back now and firmly believe that if I had someone that understood aspergers around me and got me lots of these difficulties would never have happened and I myself would have understood myself better an not beat myself so much to fit in.

    I am now learning to accept myself, it will take time though because I no longer have to act it all out. Therefore I don't get physically ill ftom trying to fit into the typical world. I think to myself now you can try and fit into mine or better still we can compromise somehow. 

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