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Is it worth a diagnosis

WhatsNext1980

Hi,

so, brief history of me - I have a job, reasonably successful but struggle with social and relationships. I confuse what people are saying with what I think they mean, I hide in a corner or with very familiar people at any social function, I get very upset when what I think the 'rule am are get broken - lateness for example. In relationships I struggle to talk and communicate and arguments never start, I simply stop talking and try and hide. If I get pushed/pressed it makesme worse. I have one friend who I talk to every day but he knows me well and ignores or looks over some of my oddities and is always ready to switch topics or talk over my silence when needed.

what I'm trying to decide is whether there's value in a diagnosis... Reading a book recently made me think ' yes - they're describing me. Someone who finally thinks like I do' but do i need someone to confirm it or do I just work on the assumption that I am ? My job won't change, I don't need financial support, I'm high functioning ... But would it help socially and relationship wise to be able to tell people I'm a little different? Would it help me understand me better if it was confirmed ? 

Im not sure I can cope with NHS waiting lairs and a private diagnosis seems to be £2,500 ... I would just appreciate people's thoughts or if there's a cheaper option if I want a 'non-formal' diagnosis as its not like i need to convince the goverment I need support?

please - I'd appreciate the thoughts of others who have been making this journey longer than me ?

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  • Exactly what I've been wondering.  I initial contacted the Lorna Wing Centre but that's very expensive so I stopped looking... A few weeks ago, I had a look again and was delighted to find a psychologist in Coventry (a fair drive away but worth it I think) who charges £395, which is a lot more do-able.  I'm hoping to go in May, once I've saved up enough.

    I've been in my new job for six weeks and I love the actual work, but some of the team are really bitchy & I find it hard to deal with.  I cope by 'shutting down' by 9pm every night & exercising.  I decided to make the decision to mention suspected Asperger's on my application and in my interview (thankfully I am very qualified, over qualified actually) & I am good at what I do.  I can't stand the office politics though, which is probably why I am awake at silly o'clock.

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  • Exactly what I've been wondering.  I initial contacted the Lorna Wing Centre but that's very expensive so I stopped looking... A few weeks ago, I had a look again and was delighted to find a psychologist in Coventry (a fair drive away but worth it I think) who charges £395, which is a lot more do-able.  I'm hoping to go in May, once I've saved up enough.

    I've been in my new job for six weeks and I love the actual work, but some of the team are really bitchy & I find it hard to deal with.  I cope by 'shutting down' by 9pm every night & exercising.  I decided to make the decision to mention suspected Asperger's on my application and in my interview (thankfully I am very qualified, over qualified actually) & I am good at what I do.  I can't stand the office politics though, which is probably why I am awake at silly o'clock.

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