Understanding peoples behaviour and not being a victim.

So there are nasty people out there on the net, ignorant people... People who would target someone for having a disability like ASD...i ve been interacting with one on some nasty forum recently while trying to understand a part of me. Ive been bullied and targetted for my behaviour before i was diagnosed with Aspergers. Had a whole team of people complain about my behaviour in the workplace before my diagnosis.

At 6'1 with some martial arts background im not afraid of meeting these individuals face to face anymore, still my ordeals have been verbal and emotional in nature and none the less painful. 

Now i find myself with a rather dismal view of people after all i've been through. I try and understand people Who have bullied me etc in an attempt to learn from the experience so it doesnt happen again. But all i 'learn' is how nasty people can be to those who are different like me and the more i think about the behaviour the more stressed i become.

A therapist said i internalise the nasty people i have met in my life, so instead of moving on i carry them around with me.

Ive started working out again and im going to practice my martial arts again...i dont want to be a victim.

How have others adapted and dealt with being bullied because of their ASD?

What are your thoughts on what i have said?

Cheers

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  • I would reiterate this. NT often just don't understand how hurtful their remarks can be. It is because of the invisible nature of autism and other related conditions. People should not assume anything. I had an unfortunate experience that I mentioned on another thread. I get judged a lot because of problems with spatial skills. Because I don't look disabled, people wrongly attribute my problems, and they come out with hurtful remarks. It is hard for me to trust people because of this. 

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  • I would reiterate this. NT often just don't understand how hurtful their remarks can be. It is because of the invisible nature of autism and other related conditions. People should not assume anything. I had an unfortunate experience that I mentioned on another thread. I get judged a lot because of problems with spatial skills. Because I don't look disabled, people wrongly attribute my problems, and they come out with hurtful remarks. It is hard for me to trust people because of this. 

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