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Changes To Your Autism Over Time

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Hi everyone. Recently I have been experiencing strange feelings. I discovered autism initially by feeling 'not the same', although I was ok with that. I then learnt how to live with things, and joined football teams for example, and I have always had great ambition.

Recently though, at work, I found I have a threshold. It gets to a point and my body just shuts off functions. Motivation completely goes, I don't want to interact and I need a few days, probably a good week to even get close to feeling normal again. It's frustrating because I am ambitious so I want to be motivated and cope in these situations. I never foreseen it as I am fairly mentally strong.

After taking a few years out of football due to friends leaving to go abroad and new - not as friendly people, I didnt enjoy it as much anymore back then. Now, I miss it so I enquired to return, but this time to Gaelic football - which I have played before and its a better environment with more friends (also less likeable people, but they keep themselves to themselves too). When I enquired about going back though today, I felt strange. I felt weak, suffocated, like I couldn't do it, and I wouldnt be strong enough too. It's not just a feeling, it's back to the failing of functions again. I feel I just can't cope in that surrounding anymore, even though I once very much enjoyed it. 

I am now rather worried about my future. I like my own time and own space during the day, but I seem to be needing more and more of it. Working a full time job is so difficult, I didn't even see it come. I just stop functioning properly, and I can feel it is autism. With football, I just don't really get it. I love running and weight training too though, but I never used to feel like I did today. This threshold feeling is getting more common. I feel like I understood the world back in around 2007-8. Now I feel I haven't a clue how things work anymore. I nearly feel I didn't realise how much I am effected by it. Now it really is effecting me.

Has anyone experienced anything similar? A worsening of autism, so to speak, as years go by?

Thanks for any replies, I appreciate your advice and thanks for reading.

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  • Former Member
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    Hi BB

    Our minds can try and hold lots of thoughts and ideas at once. Out of the all of the positive and negative ideas you try and make sense of it and come to a balanced view of the world. Black and white thinking, which is a common cause of lots of mental issues, can make it harder to come to a sensible opinion about something and we can then fall into a state of being overwhelmed and depressed.

    One of the issues is that, when we get into this state, we do things that are non sensical. e.g. you might cut yourself off from a friend or family member. This can make the situation worse and you fall down a downward spiral into more isolation and more extreme thinking. Being less tolerant might be a sign that you are in a bad place and need to take some action to recover.

    Being nice to yourself is a good place to start. Get some peace and quiet, read a book, go for a walk etc but then try and talk to someone and realise that everyone goes through similar patches and that life can be dull or miserable or boring or hopeless at times but that we can all find things to achieve to make us happy.

    Being nice to other people can have a payback of a smile or something else in return. It can trigger a reversal of a downward spiral and lead you to a better place.

    The isolation that often comes with autism can lead us to lose a sense of what is sensible to think. Getting feedback and studying what other people do and how they muddle on with their lives can help you feel less hopeless and more normal.

    These are just my ideas from experience and some reading, pick and choose what you agree with. Try and understand that you have more choice in your life than you might think and try and realise that everyday choices can have a bearing on what you do next and how you feel.

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  • Former Member
    Former Member

    Hi BB

    Our minds can try and hold lots of thoughts and ideas at once. Out of the all of the positive and negative ideas you try and make sense of it and come to a balanced view of the world. Black and white thinking, which is a common cause of lots of mental issues, can make it harder to come to a sensible opinion about something and we can then fall into a state of being overwhelmed and depressed.

    One of the issues is that, when we get into this state, we do things that are non sensical. e.g. you might cut yourself off from a friend or family member. This can make the situation worse and you fall down a downward spiral into more isolation and more extreme thinking. Being less tolerant might be a sign that you are in a bad place and need to take some action to recover.

    Being nice to yourself is a good place to start. Get some peace and quiet, read a book, go for a walk etc but then try and talk to someone and realise that everyone goes through similar patches and that life can be dull or miserable or boring or hopeless at times but that we can all find things to achieve to make us happy.

    Being nice to other people can have a payback of a smile or something else in return. It can trigger a reversal of a downward spiral and lead you to a better place.

    The isolation that often comes with autism can lead us to lose a sense of what is sensible to think. Getting feedback and studying what other people do and how they muddle on with their lives can help you feel less hopeless and more normal.

    These are just my ideas from experience and some reading, pick and choose what you agree with. Try and understand that you have more choice in your life than you might think and try and realise that everyday choices can have a bearing on what you do next and how you feel.

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