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Just been diagnosed

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Hi

i was diagnosed with ASD on Wednesday and struggling to come to terms with it even though I expected it.  I'm 37 years old and I have a 6 year old daughter with ASD and SPD.  I work part time, today I went into work broke down in tears and went home.  boss doesn't seem to understand because I expected it I should be ok.  Tried to explain its different thinking i am to knowing I am ASD.  Tried to explain it to her like I've just found out I'm adopted, something I thought I was is now different.  I have a follow up apt with ASD service in 4 weeks but my boss says I should have it sooner or speak to my GP.  I'm not depressed but I am struggling to adjust.  ASD service didmy really help me when I got my diagnosis si said they will help in 4 weeks time.  Just told me im now disabled and my husband is now my cared and work will have a disabled policy in place.  Its hard to hear I'm now class as disabled.  How do I move on from here ? Did it take people a while to adjust ? 

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  • Thanks classic codger

    Only a hand full of people know, mainly family and now my boss.  previously she was keen for me to tell people in my office once I was diagnosed but now I have a diagnosis I don't want to, not until I have my own feelings sorted.  Really unsure what people will think of me if I tell them.  People don't understand autism, it's hard for me to understand it all so even harder for them but generally society thinks autism is either rain man or non verbal.  people think I can't be austic I've managed 37 years ok so I must be "normal" and nothing wrong with me.  But behind closed doors I haven't managed, I have no social life, no friends etc etc.  Only people that are my friends and trust are my husband and my 6 yr old daughteR who is also ASD.  So wish I had a friend I could have a cuppa with and be "normal" and chat like people do.  Wish I couls go to work and talk to people in the office and feel comfortable, but I don't I sit at my desk in silence getting on with my work.  But because I don't get involved they don't include me with anything I may as well not be there.  think I'm just having a bad day.

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  • Thanks classic codger

    Only a hand full of people know, mainly family and now my boss.  previously she was keen for me to tell people in my office once I was diagnosed but now I have a diagnosis I don't want to, not until I have my own feelings sorted.  Really unsure what people will think of me if I tell them.  People don't understand autism, it's hard for me to understand it all so even harder for them but generally society thinks autism is either rain man or non verbal.  people think I can't be austic I've managed 37 years ok so I must be "normal" and nothing wrong with me.  But behind closed doors I haven't managed, I have no social life, no friends etc etc.  Only people that are my friends and trust are my husband and my 6 yr old daughteR who is also ASD.  So wish I had a friend I could have a cuppa with and be "normal" and chat like people do.  Wish I couls go to work and talk to people in the office and feel comfortable, but I don't I sit at my desk in silence getting on with my work.  But because I don't get involved they don't include me with anything I may as well not be there.  think I'm just having a bad day.

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