Published on 12, July, 2020
I've not been diagnosed with Asperger's, but recently I had a long chat with someone with whom I shared so many traits/viewpoints and it turned out he'd been diagnosed.
My problem is that I start off well at every job, but within a year or two things go incredibly wrong, I feel that people gang up on me and I end up walking out. I can't cope with meetings: I can't think of anything to say, if I do say something it's ignored and I get told I project a 'negative attitude'. At breaks no-one talks to me. I feel like a caged bird, desperate to escape, and if anything overruns beyond the time it was supposed to finish, I get very angry and resentful.
I excel at time management, organisation and anything that requires loads of detail, but no matter how hard I try people accuse me of being unapproachable or I get criticised for things that others get away with. I help others as much as I can, but I get told I don't! I give praise and support, but am told I don't! I go out of my way to be friendly to people, but I'm told I don't! It's like it doesn't matter what I do I get picked on for it. My cards are marked, so to speak, because I am incredibly honest all the time and believe in justice, and people don't like the challenge. I find it almost impossible to manage my emotions and become either a blubbering wreck or 'aggressive' because I will defend myself if I feel something is unfair.
I'm getting to the point where I'm likely to walk out of another job because I can't stand what I perceive to be victimisation. Clearly the issue must be me, or the pattern wouldn't have repeated itself three times now. I just can't work with people; they have agendas that I really cannot understand.
Does anyone else experience these kinds of problems at work?
I can totally relate!! I am an accountant so I have a lot of autonomy in my office as well as solitude. But, boy when it comes to new coworkers, kapow!! It is a disaster!! She was rude, is unapproachable, says innapropriate things, sends innappropriate emails ( I can argue till I'm blue in the face about what is considered innapropriate, but to no ado) Gah, it never ends. People eventually get used to me and mostly warm up, but a few always hate me. Sometimes the hubs points out people give looks to me or avoid me. I don't recognize these things easily, but then it bothers me when i find out about it. Couldn't people just get over themselves?? So frustrating. The only reason I usually separate from a company is when I leave for a better opportunity, but the ONLY reason they keep me at first is because I'm very good at what I do. I have gotten fired from a couple of jobs within 2 months because of it though.