Published on 12, July, 2020
I've not been diagnosed with Asperger's, but recently I had a long chat with someone with whom I shared so many traits/viewpoints and it turned out he'd been diagnosed.
My problem is that I start off well at every job, but within a year or two things go incredibly wrong, I feel that people gang up on me and I end up walking out. I can't cope with meetings: I can't think of anything to say, if I do say something it's ignored and I get told I project a 'negative attitude'. At breaks no-one talks to me. I feel like a caged bird, desperate to escape, and if anything overruns beyond the time it was supposed to finish, I get very angry and resentful.
I excel at time management, organisation and anything that requires loads of detail, but no matter how hard I try people accuse me of being unapproachable or I get criticised for things that others get away with. I help others as much as I can, but I get told I don't! I give praise and support, but am told I don't! I go out of my way to be friendly to people, but I'm told I don't! It's like it doesn't matter what I do I get picked on for it. My cards are marked, so to speak, because I am incredibly honest all the time and believe in justice, and people don't like the challenge. I find it almost impossible to manage my emotions and become either a blubbering wreck or 'aggressive' because I will defend myself if I feel something is unfair.
I'm getting to the point where I'm likely to walk out of another job because I can't stand what I perceive to be victimisation. Clearly the issue must be me, or the pattern wouldn't have repeated itself three times now. I just can't work with people; they have agendas that I really cannot understand.
Does anyone else experience these kinds of problems at work?
@poorlittlefishAs you can see just about everyone on the spectrum has social issues.I am also on the spectrum but I also have a personality disorder which puts me in the parameters of being a Psychopath/Sociopath. I suffer from the issues you face all the time but instead of letting the emotions of co-workers get to me I ignore their critic and tell them straight that they are the problem and not me.I personally think you may suffer from lack of empathy. There is nothing wrong with this. Some people have little to no emotional intelligence in the ways they relate to others.The solution is quit trying to fit into the herd mentality of those outside the spectrum. Do your job to the best of your ability and find a boss who cares more about profit, results and innovation.The sheep of the herd will always whine that you don't consider their feelings but lets be honest if the corporation your in is more about being a happy little family than a profit making machine you may as well start looking for another job because the coming recession will bankrupt most of these jobsworth businesses.Take my answers with a pinch of salt.