Every job I've had leads to everyone hating me and me walking out

I've not been diagnosed with Asperger's, but recently I had a long chat with someone with whom I shared so many traits/viewpoints and it turned out he'd been diagnosed.

My problem is that I start off well at every job, but within a year or two things go incredibly wrong, I feel that people gang up on me and I end up walking out. I can't cope with meetings: I can't think of anything to say, if I do say something it's ignored and I get told I project a 'negative attitude'. At breaks no-one talks to me. I feel like a caged bird, desperate to escape, and if anything overruns beyond the time it was supposed to finish, I get very angry and resentful.

I excel at time management, organisation and anything that requires loads of detail, but no matter how hard I try people accuse me of being unapproachable or I get criticised for things that others get away with. I help others as much as I can, but I get told I don't! I give praise and support, but am told I don't! I go out of my way to be friendly to people, but I'm told I don't! It's like it doesn't matter what I do I get picked on for it. My cards are marked, so to speak, because I am incredibly honest all the time and believe in justice, and people don't like the challenge. I find it almost impossible to manage my emotions and become either a blubbering wreck or 'aggressive' because I will defend myself if I feel something is unfair.

I'm getting to the point where I'm likely to walk out of another job because I can't stand what I perceive to be victimisation. Clearly the issue must be me, or the pattern wouldn't have repeated itself three times now. I just can't work with people; they have agendas that I really cannot understand.

Does anyone else experience these kinds of problems at work?

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  • I have just walked out of two jobs in the past year for the same reasons most of you mention. I felt bullied and criticised and hated all the politics, favouritism and manipulative games that seem to be the norm in most workplaces. 

    I only lasted four months in the second job. It was like my brain just shut down and I could simply not stand it any longer. So after a very upsetting day I just left and could not go back.

    i now wonder if I will ever be able to work again. It is sad because I can enjoy working but it has to be a specific environment where I don't feel I have to compete with everyone or get involved in politics or mind games. 

    I am going to look at doing something completely different once I find the courage and confidence to go back to work.

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  • I have just walked out of two jobs in the past year for the same reasons most of you mention. I felt bullied and criticised and hated all the politics, favouritism and manipulative games that seem to be the norm in most workplaces. 

    I only lasted four months in the second job. It was like my brain just shut down and I could simply not stand it any longer. So after a very upsetting day I just left and could not go back.

    i now wonder if I will ever be able to work again. It is sad because I can enjoy working but it has to be a specific environment where I don't feel I have to compete with everyone or get involved in politics or mind games. 

    I am going to look at doing something completely different once I find the courage and confidence to go back to work.

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