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Obsession with people

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I get obsessed with people, or rather, women. I fall in love with certain individuals, usually celebrities or successful people. I don't know why this is. I can't talk about it with many people because they might think I am weird or fanatical. I don't have much love in my life, but I crave love. I want someone to be with me, to care for me, a bit like a child that needs looking after. I feel like a child and I crave the same sort of love that a child craves. Can anyone relate to this? I want to be mothered, I want to merge my identity with someone else's, to form a complete whole. I will then feel safe and secure, but also scared - what if they disappear?

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  • Azalea, you have explained my feelings very well. Yes, for me too, I like women who are a little bit older than me. I am 28 years old and like women in their early 30s. They can take on the role of both big sister and mother. I look very young for my years, and people tell me I have a 'baby face'. I am short in height and look about 18 years old. I also have been told that I can have a young voice. So I think that kind and nurturing types do see me in a similar light as they would a little girl who needs tender loving care. I actually don't mind this, indeed, part of me feels really cosy and warm inside when I am called 'darling' and 'sweetheart'. There is a strong part of me that wants to be mothered, probably to make up for lack of mothering because my own mother, while well meaning, has never really met my emotional needs.

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  • Azalea, you have explained my feelings very well. Yes, for me too, I like women who are a little bit older than me. I am 28 years old and like women in their early 30s. They can take on the role of both big sister and mother. I look very young for my years, and people tell me I have a 'baby face'. I am short in height and look about 18 years old. I also have been told that I can have a young voice. So I think that kind and nurturing types do see me in a similar light as they would a little girl who needs tender loving care. I actually don't mind this, indeed, part of me feels really cosy and warm inside when I am called 'darling' and 'sweetheart'. There is a strong part of me that wants to be mothered, probably to make up for lack of mothering because my own mother, while well meaning, has never really met my emotional needs.

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