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how do i cope next time

pushbartoopen

So any advice on how to cope with this next time it happens (hoping it never does)

I was out enjoying a n uight out drinking with worl. they all decided to go to a bar that playted music really loud. The drink combined with the loud music caused panic in me and i had to cling to a wall for saftey.

unfortunatly the bouncers decided to eject me from my safe place for some reason. and i couldn;t help but protest that i needed to be in the courner where it was safe. this even tually ended up with the police being called out to deal with me wich made me panic even more. getting me to the point where i could barley talk or move i felt that bad.

All i eanted was to be alone for a while but i felt unalbe to say that. all that kept happening is the situation escilationg and me being acused of being drunk and wasting police time, which made me more and more anxious

0verall all i wanted was to be alone so i could regain controll of what was going on aound me but i felt unable to actually get to hat kind of place. both with passers by touching me and with the police trying to probe me for information.

what is a good way of getting to the point where i can actually think in future. id like to have a way of saying to the emergancy services please leave me alone. I know tha sounds wroing but its what i needed and their surounding of me made things worse. is there any good way of acomplising this?

  • See I have a card and i showed the card. This didn't seem to help

    I'm ok with loud noise and busy environments if I can take time every once in a while to regain myself. Which is what I was doing. But bo her how much I asked to left alone people kept surrounding me and touching me. Maybe I did everything right but it still felt awful

     it recalated  panic on my end because I wasn't left alone.  The card did t seem to work jans when police shoed up I entered into the freeze up stage. With them calling me a drunkard when I was pretty sober

    overall looking back its just a bad experience really and I couldn't have done much differently

  • Hi pushbartoopen, I've had similar experiences. I was once physicaly attacked in a pub and then accused of starting it! I had no idea what I'd done, no-one would explain how I'd started anything, and the two guys who did the attacking paid their fines without ever explaining themselves, so I still don't know.

    What was surprising was that the people I was with understood that I needed to be in a quiet pub with not too many people around and definitely no loud music, and they looked around before choosing this one, knowing that I wasn't just being 'funny' about it but that it was a real need for me. I rarely venture out, and then only in trusted company, and even they expressed to the Police their confusion about the whole situation.

    These days I carry a card, like mid says, and I got mine with my NAS joining pack. I can also get one localy, but I think that one is plenty and I like the NAS card because it is issued by a nationaly recognised organisation.

    In your situation, I'd have melted down on the spot and ended the night either in the cells or in hospital, especially if they'd been laying their hands on me. You're right of course - how the heck can you explain anything to people when you KNOW they're going to missinterpret everything you say, probably take the p**s too, and how the heck can you speak when you've been driven into silence by this attitude?

    Get a card, and have it with you always is my best suggestion. If they have an issue with you, you can insist that the Police bring in an appropriate adult before you speak with them, if at all. And bouncers, whoever they are, need to understand that you have extra protection under the law precisely because you need it!

  • I've been in a similar position, but I have two cards to say that I have autism and how other people can help me when I'm in such a situation.  I got one from the NAS, I'm sure.  Maybe others will agree with me.  If you look on the page of selling things here, then you can buy one I think.  I don't actually recall how I came to have mine.

    There is no need not to go out, however, I wouldn't cope at all in that situation!

    M.