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Not wanting to go out

glyde10

Hi I have a 17 year old son who has always been reluctant to go out if he thinks there is any choice, but in the past we have managed to create routines that help him to know what is going to happen, and help him to accept what we are going to do. Even so we've always been pretty limited to the few things that really interest him. However over the last 6/9 months he has got significantly worse and doesn't really want to go out at all. He's still at school and seems to accept the weekday routine as he know's he has to go, but anything else is a real problem and often involves a real battle, even if it's something he loves to do once he's there. Has anyone else experienced this, & any suggestions or advice on how to help him before he becomes a total recluse/ He finishes school next summer and I'm worried about what he'll do then. Thanks!

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  • I can relate to this too.

    I only go out if I have to, for example going out to my voluntary work or to buy something from the shops, and even then it is often a struggle.

    I feel self-conscious when out and about (is this a common AS problem?) because I feel judged. Inside the house I can be me with all my eccentricities and I therefore feel in control. You never know what could happen outside and I have to be on high alert for cars and people and consequently I cannot relax. In the comfort of my bedroom I can read my books and go on the internet and I feel relatively relaxed.

    I have fixed times when I go out of the house and I can't go out after 6pm without feeling very anxious.

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  • I can relate to this too.

    I only go out if I have to, for example going out to my voluntary work or to buy something from the shops, and even then it is often a struggle.

    I feel self-conscious when out and about (is this a common AS problem?) because I feel judged. Inside the house I can be me with all my eccentricities and I therefore feel in control. You never know what could happen outside and I have to be on high alert for cars and people and consequently I cannot relax. In the comfort of my bedroom I can read my books and go on the internet and I feel relatively relaxed.

    I have fixed times when I go out of the house and I can't go out after 6pm without feeling very anxious.

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