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Not wanting to go out

glyde10

Hi I have a 17 year old son who has always been reluctant to go out if he thinks there is any choice, but in the past we have managed to create routines that help him to know what is going to happen, and help him to accept what we are going to do. Even so we've always been pretty limited to the few things that really interest him. However over the last 6/9 months he has got significantly worse and doesn't really want to go out at all. He's still at school and seems to accept the weekday routine as he know's he has to go, but anything else is a real problem and often involves a real battle, even if it's something he loves to do once he's there. Has anyone else experienced this, & any suggestions or advice on how to help him before he becomes a total recluse/ He finishes school next summer and I'm worried about what he'll do then. Thanks!

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  • as an 18 year old on the spectrum, i can sympathize to some degree, having overtones of this mindset myself. if i dont need to (aka work,college etc) its very hard for me to bring myself to leave the house, for me, this is due to that fact that outside can be a bit of a sensory explosion, lots of noise, lots of smells, lots going on at once, particularly in a highstreet. another factor of me is that i tend towards feeling very self concous(i know this isnt the right spelling, but i cant remeber what is for the life of me). whenever im around even people i know, say at college, i cannot help but have a constant barrage of anxeity about that other people think about the way i look,act,speak etc. besides all that there is the simple underlaying motivation problem, because despite my best efforts i have an underlaying lazy streak thats hard to overcome(though that may just be from being a teenager). i dont know how much this relates to your sons case, but i hope i have at least helped understanding in some way if this is the case for him.

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  • as an 18 year old on the spectrum, i can sympathize to some degree, having overtones of this mindset myself. if i dont need to (aka work,college etc) its very hard for me to bring myself to leave the house, for me, this is due to that fact that outside can be a bit of a sensory explosion, lots of noise, lots of smells, lots going on at once, particularly in a highstreet. another factor of me is that i tend towards feeling very self concous(i know this isnt the right spelling, but i cant remeber what is for the life of me). whenever im around even people i know, say at college, i cannot help but have a constant barrage of anxeity about that other people think about the way i look,act,speak etc. besides all that there is the simple underlaying motivation problem, because despite my best efforts i have an underlaying lazy streak thats hard to overcome(though that may just be from being a teenager). i dont know how much this relates to your sons case, but i hope i have at least helped understanding in some way if this is the case for him.

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