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Not wanting to go out

glyde10

Hi I have a 17 year old son who has always been reluctant to go out if he thinks there is any choice, but in the past we have managed to create routines that help him to know what is going to happen, and help him to accept what we are going to do. Even so we've always been pretty limited to the few things that really interest him. However over the last 6/9 months he has got significantly worse and doesn't really want to go out at all. He's still at school and seems to accept the weekday routine as he know's he has to go, but anything else is a real problem and often involves a real battle, even if it's something he loves to do once he's there. Has anyone else experienced this, & any suggestions or advice on how to help him before he becomes a total recluse/ He finishes school next summer and I'm worried about what he'll do then. Thanks!

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  • Stop battling. If he doesn't want to go somewhere, let him stay home. In my experience, the only time I ever want to go out is if (a) there is no pressure to go, and (b) I'm well rested by not having been out too much recently. Every time in my life someone has pushed me into doing something because it's "good for me," my aversion to and anxiety around that thing has increased to an extreme level, until one day I snap and can't do it at all any more.

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  • Stop battling. If he doesn't want to go somewhere, let him stay home. In my experience, the only time I ever want to go out is if (a) there is no pressure to go, and (b) I'm well rested by not having been out too much recently. Every time in my life someone has pushed me into doing something because it's "good for me," my aversion to and anxiety around that thing has increased to an extreme level, until one day I snap and can't do it at all any more.

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