Hi Everyone!
This is the first time that I have used this site.
I need help and I am hoping that someone can give me some advice.
I have been round in circles trying to get my son help with his anger.
He is now threatening to take his own life, screams, shouts and bangs things. He has similar problems at school. I have tried new approaches and stratergies and nothing seems to work. I Am
at the end of my tether. I feel that I am loosing my son and I am worried that he will hurt himself or someone else. Can anyone give me some advice please.
Kind Regards
Debbie
I find it really hard reading threads on here about aggressive behaviour (please don't let that put off anyone posting about it, I'm not criticising anyone). I just can't relate to it myself, although I feel maybe there were other problems in my childhood which could account for this). However I earliest thoughts about suicide were around this age, I didn't tell my parents. At least he is expressing his feelings to you, although not in a constructive way.
I can relate to sudden change in mood and outbursts, I just find my anxiety levels go very high and very quick over things that are not that important in the grand scheme of things. This does tend to escalte when I have a big problem that is difficult to deal with, little things can spark off my anxiety.
I wonder if you can try and find out from him what things he is worried about, or things that really annoy him. Even Today, I get very freaked out when someone gets physically very close to me (I am 49), that has got worse recently when I would start ranting and sometimes swearing which I feel so ashamed about. That is agressive behaviour, but I don't feel I would get to a state where I would physically hurt someone.
I guess trying to break through communication barrier with your son will help your situation. It's difficult because your son is at an age where he is starting to establish his independence
I find it really hard reading threads on here about aggressive behaviour (please don't let that put off anyone posting about it, I'm not criticising anyone). I just can't relate to it myself, although I feel maybe there were other problems in my childhood which could account for this). However I earliest thoughts about suicide were around this age, I didn't tell my parents. At least he is expressing his feelings to you, although not in a constructive way.
I can relate to sudden change in mood and outbursts, I just find my anxiety levels go very high and very quick over things that are not that important in the grand scheme of things. This does tend to escalte when I have a big problem that is difficult to deal with, little things can spark off my anxiety.
I wonder if you can try and find out from him what things he is worried about, or things that really annoy him. Even Today, I get very freaked out when someone gets physically very close to me (I am 49), that has got worse recently when I would start ranting and sometimes swearing which I feel so ashamed about. That is agressive behaviour, but I don't feel I would get to a state where I would physically hurt someone.
I guess trying to break through communication barrier with your son will help your situation. It's difficult because your son is at an age where he is starting to establish his independence
