Hi Everyone!
This is the first time that I have used this site.
I need help and I am hoping that someone can give me some advice.
I have been round in circles trying to get my son help with his anger.
He is now threatening to take his own life, screams, shouts and bangs things. He has similar problems at school. I have tried new approaches and stratergies and nothing seems to work. I Am
at the end of my tether. I feel that I am loosing my son and I am worried that he will hurt himself or someone else. Can anyone give me some advice please.
Kind Regards
Debbie
Hi glad you are going to look at Spirals. Have you had any support from CAHMS?? We are going to see them and I am sure you would benefit.
My husband took ages to recognise a problem with our son I think men live in denial and find it difficult with whatever the problem is to accept it. I don't think your husband wants to accept that there is something wrong and that is his way of not taking him and taking some responsibility.
I have realised that it takes a long time to understand what triggers bad moods and behaviour with your child. I used to walk around on egg shells not wanting to trigger a mood swing or a screaming, punching session in the middle of the shop. The fact is there is nothing you can do they have a diagnosis and as much as my son punches me, trashes his room, breaks things the fact is he is going to do it if he thinks something is not right, or he can't have something or he just wants to be that way. I have found that if I can get hold of him and wrap him in a blanket and hold him tightly without hurting him he settles quicker, it doesn't always work but sometimes it does.
I hate taking my son anywhere as I know that at any moment he can have one of his moments and if you are somewhere where there are others around they stare and talk about you as though you are an unfit parent who cannot control their child, you feel like screaming at the top of your voice, my child as aspergers.
Your childs behaviour isn't to do with parenting, he needs help and understanding and you certainly don't need a book you need someone to say they understand and want to help.
I have made a sensory area for my little boy with lights and stress balls I think he gets stressed because he is like this and cannot control it. My son tells me that sometimes his head tells him that something isn't right and he can't then control what he does or says.
I hope you find some support but this sight is useful to get some feed back and if nothing else you can say what is on your mind.
Hi glad you are going to look at Spirals. Have you had any support from CAHMS?? We are going to see them and I am sure you would benefit.
My husband took ages to recognise a problem with our son I think men live in denial and find it difficult with whatever the problem is to accept it. I don't think your husband wants to accept that there is something wrong and that is his way of not taking him and taking some responsibility.
I have realised that it takes a long time to understand what triggers bad moods and behaviour with your child. I used to walk around on egg shells not wanting to trigger a mood swing or a screaming, punching session in the middle of the shop. The fact is there is nothing you can do they have a diagnosis and as much as my son punches me, trashes his room, breaks things the fact is he is going to do it if he thinks something is not right, or he can't have something or he just wants to be that way. I have found that if I can get hold of him and wrap him in a blanket and hold him tightly without hurting him he settles quicker, it doesn't always work but sometimes it does.
I hate taking my son anywhere as I know that at any moment he can have one of his moments and if you are somewhere where there are others around they stare and talk about you as though you are an unfit parent who cannot control their child, you feel like screaming at the top of your voice, my child as aspergers.
Your childs behaviour isn't to do with parenting, he needs help and understanding and you certainly don't need a book you need someone to say they understand and want to help.
I have made a sensory area for my little boy with lights and stress balls I think he gets stressed because he is like this and cannot control it. My son tells me that sometimes his head tells him that something isn't right and he can't then control what he does or says.
I hope you find some support but this sight is useful to get some feed back and if nothing else you can say what is on your mind.
