Hi Everyone!
This is the first time that I have used this site.
I need help and I am hoping that someone can give me some advice.
I have been round in circles trying to get my son help with his anger.
He is now threatening to take his own life, screams, shouts and bangs things. He has similar problems at school. I have tried new approaches and stratergies and nothing seems to work. I Am
at the end of my tether. I feel that I am loosing my son and I am worried that he will hurt himself or someone else. Can anyone give me some advice please.
Kind Regards
Debbie
You sound in a very similar position as me and my son's dad found it difficult to acknowledge at first that (Oscar lets call him) had a problem. I think for men they struggle to accept things like this and it would be easier to say that they are going through a stage or they will grow out of it when in reality isn't it better that children like Oscar and Sam receive a diagnosis rather than being labelled NAUGHTY.
Sam sounds like he is expressing his anger towards you because like me you are the main person around. I have been kicked, punched, had things thrown at me, nipped, bit you name it but with his dad he isn't as bad, which frustrates me because I feel I have done something wrong, but I am learning to accept its because I am here more than dad.
I have put my name down for a session with spirals which talk about Autism etc and I have finally got a date which I can attend and I think you would benefit from something like this as I am sure whereever you live there will be organisations that run some kind of sessions where parents like us can get together and talk about the issues and how best to deal with these.
I avoid wherever possible taking Oscar out because like you its the behaviour, anger which can just happen at the slightest thing, mainly if his sister is with us and he gets really angry and it becomes embarrassing with everyone looking at you as though you have a NAUGHTY child its a shame you can't have a band of some kind to wear saying I have autism, asperger etc.
As for medication i think you should see your GP and explain what is happening, as it also sounds like Sam could have ADHD which I think Oscar as too but they say it is very difficult to diagnose when they have autism or asperger. Even though I have melatonin temporary for Oscar as they don't like to give it long term I have to say it helps with night time sleep and I am sure the more sleep they get the calmer they are ok it will not make them 100% ok in the day but it helps. Oscar was not sleeping and he was tired, angry and so moody but having had a proper good nights sleep he is alot better on a morning and that was the worst time for me with him. I also keep a diary for each day even if there has been no anger (which there is always anger with oscar) I do it to see if there is a pattern or is something happening to aggrevate him, you might want to consider this and it will help if you see your doctor as we all forget things and dates when events happened.
Let me know how you get on. I am finding this site is great just to express how my son is and how it makes me feel as no one else understands.
You sound in a very similar position as me and my son's dad found it difficult to acknowledge at first that (Oscar lets call him) had a problem. I think for men they struggle to accept things like this and it would be easier to say that they are going through a stage or they will grow out of it when in reality isn't it better that children like Oscar and Sam receive a diagnosis rather than being labelled NAUGHTY.
Sam sounds like he is expressing his anger towards you because like me you are the main person around. I have been kicked, punched, had things thrown at me, nipped, bit you name it but with his dad he isn't as bad, which frustrates me because I feel I have done something wrong, but I am learning to accept its because I am here more than dad.
I have put my name down for a session with spirals which talk about Autism etc and I have finally got a date which I can attend and I think you would benefit from something like this as I am sure whereever you live there will be organisations that run some kind of sessions where parents like us can get together and talk about the issues and how best to deal with these.
I avoid wherever possible taking Oscar out because like you its the behaviour, anger which can just happen at the slightest thing, mainly if his sister is with us and he gets really angry and it becomes embarrassing with everyone looking at you as though you have a NAUGHTY child its a shame you can't have a band of some kind to wear saying I have autism, asperger etc.
As for medication i think you should see your GP and explain what is happening, as it also sounds like Sam could have ADHD which I think Oscar as too but they say it is very difficult to diagnose when they have autism or asperger. Even though I have melatonin temporary for Oscar as they don't like to give it long term I have to say it helps with night time sleep and I am sure the more sleep they get the calmer they are ok it will not make them 100% ok in the day but it helps. Oscar was not sleeping and he was tired, angry and so moody but having had a proper good nights sleep he is alot better on a morning and that was the worst time for me with him. I also keep a diary for each day even if there has been no anger (which there is always anger with oscar) I do it to see if there is a pattern or is something happening to aggrevate him, you might want to consider this and it will help if you see your doctor as we all forget things and dates when events happened.
Let me know how you get on. I am finding this site is great just to express how my son is and how it makes me feel as no one else understands.
