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Learning/unlearning coping strategies

belles12345

I am interested to discuss what coping strategies you have learnt (or unlearnt) since discovering you are autistic/have an ASC.  

I am in a period of trying to 'unlearn' (apologies if this is not a word...I'm tired to check right now) a specific strategy that has enabled me to get by in the world.  That is, pretending to be someone different to what I am, the person I want to be.  I am finding that by letting myself be myself, that I am starting to connect a little more with a few other people (albeit with many mistakes along the way and starting to feel like I have 'regressed' from my previous 'false self' that uses learned phrases to a point where I now feel barely capable of talking in a full sentence, but I think it's the best way and why should I feel ashamed of trying to be myself).

So if anyone would like to share their strategies for coping, both useful and otherwise, please do.

I hope this makes sense.

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  • I think I may be in a similar situation. I found coping strategies that seemed to work for many years until I got into an extremely stressful work situation about four years ago. After struggling with that for several years, I felt like everything unravelled and fell apart. 

    I no longer trust my own abilities to communicate so am terrified of screwing up at work. I have left two jobs because of this and have no idea if I will ever find appropriate coping strategies again.

    i felt bullied and criticised with no support, so left the jobs. Now I feel like a failure but am trying with a new job soon.

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  • I think I may be in a similar situation. I found coping strategies that seemed to work for many years until I got into an extremely stressful work situation about four years ago. After struggling with that for several years, I felt like everything unravelled and fell apart. 

    I no longer trust my own abilities to communicate so am terrified of screwing up at work. I have left two jobs because of this and have no idea if I will ever find appropriate coping strategies again.

    i felt bullied and criticised with no support, so left the jobs. Now I feel like a failure but am trying with a new job soon.

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