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Hi,

Had an evening out in London to see a music event, I rarely go out may be 2,3 times a year, and have only been doing that for past 2-3 years.

Had a big problem with seating arrangement, discussed it over the phone when I booked my ticked and just was not what I expected when I turned up; I could not see anything of the musician I wanted to see play. 

I tried to enjoy the gig anyway, and afterwards there was a nice reception with drinks and can talk to musicians.

I have really wanted to talk to the musician, and hang around afterwards. Trying to get to speak to him, but get so wound up, and don't want to interupt when others are speaking, so patiently wait 20-30 minutes. The brief spells he seemed to be free, he was talking closely with his partner, and again I didn't want to interupt their personal time together.

Felt really bad, I wanted to talk about musical ideas I had in past which were inline with ideas and work he had done at a couple of previous concerts.

I just so annoyed with myself and would like to be a bit more forward. When I left the event, I bumped in to him and his partner, he was having a smoking break. I should have introduced myself there, but just couldnt push myself to do it and felt really bad.

It would have meant so much to me to have a brief conversation with him.

Just venting my frustration, I have been recently diagnosed with Aspergers

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  • A bit of an update to this old thread. I attended another music event in London at the weekend. It was a different band with the same musician(piano) with another member(violin). It was a smaller venue, and one I had visited before. Again I desperately wanted to start a conversation, and there were opportunities I missed. I was there early, they kindly let me in while they were practising. I tried so hard, standing up from my seat a couple of times to get his attention when he was about 3 feet away from me, but was heavilly in conversation with a group of four females, and I think 2 of them were either partners or close friends.

    I had taken my cd of the music with me to hopefully get signed, I thought I would try again at the end of the performance; I was about to leave, and one musician was back on stage packing up. I just managed to catch his attention and asked him to autograph the cd which he kindly did and we had a brief conversation, I did feel awkward in the conversation, but was so happy to be speaking with him; I think he may have asperger traits himself.

    I then was slowly walking out of the venue, and saw the other musician in the band talking to someone else, so aproached him and asked him to sign my cd, and again had a conversation with him, felt very awkward, and found it difficult to respond to him, I seem to not say what I am feeling. We talked about listening to music at work, and I explained that I listen to different music at work than I do at home. He asked what music I listened to at work, and my mind just went blank. Anyway it was nice speaking to him, and I have discovered he has played on four tracks I like with different bands, including Hans Zimmer on the Interstellar soundtrack played at the Royal Albert Hall, one I my favourite pieces of music in recent years.

    Afterwards, I was really pleased that I had spoke to them, with the added bonus of getting my cd signed. I just felt awkward with my conversation, was very difficult with two people I have really admired their work. I didn't think I would be able to do it, and try to calm myselft down with the dissapointment of leaving again and not speaking to them

    I have another bigger event in April I need to socialise in, trying to prepare myself for that

    I guess having the cd and asking for a signature gave me a "prompt" to start an engagement in a conversation. I wont be able to do that at the next event, signatures forbidden

    Random.

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  • A bit of an update to this old thread. I attended another music event in London at the weekend. It was a different band with the same musician(piano) with another member(violin). It was a smaller venue, and one I had visited before. Again I desperately wanted to start a conversation, and there were opportunities I missed. I was there early, they kindly let me in while they were practising. I tried so hard, standing up from my seat a couple of times to get his attention when he was about 3 feet away from me, but was heavilly in conversation with a group of four females, and I think 2 of them were either partners or close friends.

    I had taken my cd of the music with me to hopefully get signed, I thought I would try again at the end of the performance; I was about to leave, and one musician was back on stage packing up. I just managed to catch his attention and asked him to autograph the cd which he kindly did and we had a brief conversation, I did feel awkward in the conversation, but was so happy to be speaking with him; I think he may have asperger traits himself.

    I then was slowly walking out of the venue, and saw the other musician in the band talking to someone else, so aproached him and asked him to sign my cd, and again had a conversation with him, felt very awkward, and found it difficult to respond to him, I seem to not say what I am feeling. We talked about listening to music at work, and I explained that I listen to different music at work than I do at home. He asked what music I listened to at work, and my mind just went blank. Anyway it was nice speaking to him, and I have discovered he has played on four tracks I like with different bands, including Hans Zimmer on the Interstellar soundtrack played at the Royal Albert Hall, one I my favourite pieces of music in recent years.

    Afterwards, I was really pleased that I had spoke to them, with the added bonus of getting my cd signed. I just felt awkward with my conversation, was very difficult with two people I have really admired their work. I didn't think I would be able to do it, and try to calm myselft down with the dissapointment of leaving again and not speaking to them

    I have another bigger event in April I need to socialise in, trying to prepare myself for that

    I guess having the cd and asking for a signature gave me a "prompt" to start an engagement in a conversation. I wont be able to do that at the next event, signatures forbidden

    Random.

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