Adult ASD and purchase decisions

Is it a normal ASD thing to fixate almost haplessly on whether you should buy something or not? I've been known to linger outside shops in an almost frozen state trying to figure out whether I should put money down on something that I really really really want. Once I buy the thing, though, I don't recall ever having a moment where I regretted buying it or felt too awful about it afterwards, so I doubt it's impulsive per se. In fact I usually very carefully consider everything about buying it.

I imagine this is relevant to ASD (though I don't want to jump ahead of myself) because more often than not those purchase decisions have a lot to do with things that I believe will add to things that I'm interested in — e.g. I'm currently really fixated on a Moleskine notebook and a fountain pen (within affordable limits) because I fully fully believe that they will be nice and useful for this area of knowledge that I'm learning about. However, I also live alone in London and while my finances are okay for now it's clear that my in-flow/out-flow habits aren't always the wisest, even if I'm not exactly a wastrel. 

Do people share similar experiences, and does anyone have any tips or ways of coping with that strong sense of fixation when it hits? 

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  • Thanks for posting this, I can really relate to this and has been posing a big problem for me over past decade. It causes a lot of stress, and I have to research everything about it. Even technical things like computers, phones, etc, being professional web developer, I am very technically inclined. 

    Many years ago I didn't buy much stuff, even after I had moved in to a new house. I was much happier with minimal possessions, but take great care and get a lot of use out of possessions you own.

    Recently I have wanted to upgrade my hi-fi, problem has been finding a decent set of speakers. I just don't like the modern ones, but there are a few produced mainly in 80s I would like. Have been looking second hand, difficult to find, but a couple of really good ones came up, and I have to ask all the details, and by the time I have decided to go for them, someone else has bought them.

    With computers, phones, and technical things, I don't follow latest trend, usually going for something that's going out of fashion. Choices are more limited, cheaper, and established, so problems are well known.

    Sorry, probably haven't helped, but thought I would post 

    Paul

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  • Thanks for posting this, I can really relate to this and has been posing a big problem for me over past decade. It causes a lot of stress, and I have to research everything about it. Even technical things like computers, phones, etc, being professional web developer, I am very technically inclined. 

    Many years ago I didn't buy much stuff, even after I had moved in to a new house. I was much happier with minimal possessions, but take great care and get a lot of use out of possessions you own.

    Recently I have wanted to upgrade my hi-fi, problem has been finding a decent set of speakers. I just don't like the modern ones, but there are a few produced mainly in 80s I would like. Have been looking second hand, difficult to find, but a couple of really good ones came up, and I have to ask all the details, and by the time I have decided to go for them, someone else has bought them.

    With computers, phones, and technical things, I don't follow latest trend, usually going for something that's going out of fashion. Choices are more limited, cheaper, and established, so problems are well known.

    Sorry, probably haven't helped, but thought I would post 

    Paul

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