Frustration

Hi

Priest don't mean that they automatically understand us. They have to get to know us as individuals as with everyone else. You say they are new? Then chances are that new priet could be feeling just as bad about causing you to be uncomfortable as 'he' is. I am assuming the priest is a he?

I am lucky because I get on reasonably well with newish priest. He not new to the area and I have just moved churches anyway so he new to me though known him for just about 9 month. He agreed to be on the card i carry for autism. I never used the card but between the two priests at the church, they both really help .me.

I don't go in for speculative theological discussions. I need my discussions to be 'real'. Plus I don't social chat very easily (female). But I guess one doesn't go up to a stranger, priest or not and just launch into whatever it is we are thinking about. I guess. I struggle with the hello how are you stuff and the Priest understands. On a bad day we are learning to do a thumbs down.  I ask them not to ask me unless they have time to unravel it with me and yes that happens they will unravel it with me.  But I don't do the theological discussion unless I just read a book and then dont really discuss I think?

Chances are if the priest knows that he caused you to have a melt down then he could be feeling just as bad especailly if he is new. He wanting to create a good impression himself. I don't do phone calls you might. If it not his day off, go on, give him a ring and clear the air. Does he even know, from you, that you have autism. He may not know what it means for you because we all experience it differently. I will shake hands, many don't. I don't always look in the eye. At a 'chat' earlier on in the year the other priest was 'comforting' me before the service as it happend and made that one mistake of asking me to look at him. I sort of did. Tears happend. Luckily silent tears. Only he knew. The service started late that time. I didn't realise that I was one of those who can't always look people in the eye or look at them when ....  I think when people understand us they realise we are not being rude by not doing so.

Go on, ring or email the new priest and have a chat with him about you.

Hi

Priest don't mean that they automatically understand us. They have to get to know us as individuals as with everyone else. You say they are new? Then chances are that new priet could be feeling just as bad about causing you to be uncomfortable as 'he' is. I am assuming the priest is a he?

I am lucky because I get on reasonably well with newish priest. He not new to the area and I have just moved churches anyway so he new to me though known him for just about 9 month. He agreed to be on the card i carry for autism. I never used the card but between the two priests at the church, they both really help .me.

I don't go in for speculative theological discussions. I need my discussions to be 'real'. Plus I don't social chat very easily (female). But I guess one doesn't go up to a stranger, priest or not and just launch into whatever it is we are thinking about. I guess. I struggle with the hello how are you stuff and the Priest understands. On a bad day we are learning to do a thumbs down.  I ask them not to ask me unless they have time to unravel it with me and yes that happens they will unravel it with me.  But I don't do the theological discussion unless I just read a book and then dont really discuss I think?

Chances are if the priest knows that he caused you to have a melt down then he could be feeling just as bad especailly if he is new. He wanting to create a good impression himself. I don't do phone calls you might. If it not his day off, go on, give him a ring and clear the air. Does he even know, from you, that you have autism. He may not know what it means for you because we all experience it differently. I will shake hands, many don't. I don't always look in the eye. At a 'chat' earlier on in the year the other priest was 'comforting' me before the service as it happend and made that one mistake of asking me to look at him. I sort of did. Tears happend. Luckily silent tears. Only he knew. The service started late that time. I didn't realise that I was one of those who can't always look people in the eye or look at them when ....  I think when people understand us they realise we are not being rude by not doing so.

Go on, ring or email the new priest and have a chat with him about you.