Frustration

Hello

I am glad things are going well. I can communicate how I need with the  Priest I now have because they have time to listen. It don't matter if I cant talk - well at that moment as he is patient. The other priest is too. 'And now am learning and our deacon is learning each other too. But how they respond gives me a chance to take that to other people. Life is good in the 'new' church for me so am glad and he will help you fourmulate nice ideas I hope.   

Thnx, guys, actually, we reconciled right away, and he understands. I am learning  I will need to hold some nice ideas in my heart till i get my book out. I pray for meekness, dilligence, temperance and purty, and it is helping.

Scott Guitar guy

Hi

Perhaps you could get a card for the new priest?   A picture card where you write your own message would be good.  Perhaps write a welcome message.  And write in it that you were sorry about what happened when you met and explain why? 

What you have written in your first comment sounds a good explanation to me.  I would think the priest will understand.  

A priest has to be able to communicate with all sorts of different people, and maybe you will both have learnt something from each other from the event.

Hi

I'm interested in the subject too, but this site doesn't seem to be suitable for those conversations.

If you like, you can post on this site where I also have a profile and I'd like to talk about this with someone who isn't a representative of a religion:-

www.asd-forum.org.uk/.../

Hi

Priest don't mean that they automatically understand us. They have to get to know us as individuals as with everyone else. You say they are new? Then chances are that new priet could be feeling just as bad about causing you to be uncomfortable as 'he' is. I am assuming the priest is a he?

I am lucky because I get on reasonably well with newish priest. He not new to the area and I have just moved churches anyway so he new to me though known him for just about 9 month. He agreed to be on the card i carry for autism. I never used the card but between the two priests at the church, they both really help .me.

I don't go in for speculative theological discussions. I need my discussions to be 'real'. Plus I don't social chat very easily (female). But I guess one doesn't go up to a stranger, priest or not and just launch into whatever it is we are thinking about. I guess. I struggle with the hello how are you stuff and the Priest understands. On a bad day we are learning to do a thumbs down.  I ask them not to ask me unless they have time to unravel it with me and yes that happens they will unravel it with me.  But I don't do the theological discussion unless I just read a book and then dont really discuss I think?

Chances are if the priest knows that he caused you to have a melt down then he could be feeling just as bad especailly if he is new. He wanting to create a good impression himself. I don't do phone calls you might. If it not his day off, go on, give him a ring and clear the air. Does he even know, from you, that you have autism. He may not know what it means for you because we all experience it differently. I will shake hands, many don't. I don't always look in the eye. At a 'chat' earlier on in the year the other priest was 'comforting' me before the service as it happend and made that one mistake of asking me to look at him. I sort of did. Tears happend. Luckily silent tears. Only he knew. The service started late that time. I didn't realise that I was one of those who can't always look people in the eye or look at them when ....  I think when people understand us they realise we are not being rude by not doing so.

Go on, ring or email the new priest and have a chat with him about you.