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autistic mother of two desperately struggling

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I'm 29 and am a single parent of 2 boys my eldest who's 11 was diagnosed with autism when he was 8 he lives with my parents and my youngest son is five and waiting to be assessed I was diagnosed as autisticjjust over a year ago am really struggling to get my head round it all tho and I am so scared social services are going to remove my youngest son from my care as well if I don't learn to control his behaviour as they have tried twice to take him from me I've done every parenting course there is and have recently just finished a learning to understand your diagnosis course but things seem to be getting worse my sons are my life and am prepared to do whatever it takes to be a good mother but I don't know how I am desperate for help I want to start making progress and move forward in life but I need help to learn how to understand myself and my sons Bette

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  • I had Social Services on my back for much the same reason - someone's complete missunderstanding. They're not very good at listening, they never ask the right questions, yet when they get it right, they can be a great help. I only know this because I've worked alongside them in my job, my personal experience tells me the opposite.

    You wouyldn't be a normal parent if you didn't want to be the best you can be. So OK, you have some difficulties but you've also got a lot to offer, and that's just like any other parent.

    Social Services love to tell people how bad they are. It doesn't have to be true, just as long as they can tick some boxes to say they're 'doing their job'. If you believe that what you do is right, stick by it. If you think you can do something better, try it another way. If you can't think what to do, ask them for their suggestions - put the onus on them to do the job they're paid for.

    Good luck with it all, and remember, we're here to support you  Smile

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  • I had Social Services on my back for much the same reason - someone's complete missunderstanding. They're not very good at listening, they never ask the right questions, yet when they get it right, they can be a great help. I only know this because I've worked alongside them in my job, my personal experience tells me the opposite.

    You wouyldn't be a normal parent if you didn't want to be the best you can be. So OK, you have some difficulties but you've also got a lot to offer, and that's just like any other parent.

    Social Services love to tell people how bad they are. It doesn't have to be true, just as long as they can tick some boxes to say they're 'doing their job'. If you believe that what you do is right, stick by it. If you think you can do something better, try it another way. If you can't think what to do, ask them for their suggestions - put the onus on them to do the job they're paid for.

    Good luck with it all, and remember, we're here to support you  Smile

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