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autistic mother of two desperately struggling

Reggie

I'm 29 and am a single parent of 2 boys my eldest who's 11 was diagnosed with autism when he was 8 he lives with my parents and my youngest son is five and waiting to be assessed I was diagnosed as autisticjjust over a year ago am really struggling to get my head round it all tho and I am so scared social services are going to remove my youngest son from my care as well if I don't learn to control his behaviour as they have tried twice to take him from me I've done every parenting course there is and have recently just finished a learning to understand your diagnosis course but things seem to be getting worse my sons are my life and am prepared to do whatever it takes to be a good mother but I don't know how I am desperate for help I want to start making progress and move forward in life but I need help to learn how to understand myself and my sons Bette

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  • Hi Reggie

    Most important, call the Helpline.

    I brought three sons up as a Single Parent and an undiagnosed AS person. My youngest is also quite strongly AS but is as yet undiagnosed.

    I understand exactly what you are going through. Just because you are AS doesn't mean that you can't look after your son, it just means that you are an AS person with AS children. The greater threat to your peace of mind is Social Services, I can see. I had similar issues from time to time.

    If any concern was expressed to me, I automatically turned away. However, I had still listened, and when I was calmer I would consider what they'd said. If they were wrong, OK, I was happy. But, if I thought there was an element of truth, I'd try to make the changes that I thought were needed. I asked for, but was never offered, the kind of support that I thought would be most helpful.

    Your parents raised you and are now responsible for your son, you tell us. Do they have any concerns? If they have, do they talk calmly with you?

    I'm sorry that I can't be more helpful on here, but you would be unwise to tell us the very details that might help us to support you more. However, I have a profile on

    www.asd-forum.org.uk/.../

    You can private message me on there, if you want. I won't reveal anything that is said to me in confidence, and trust you to do the same. I absolutely trust your wanting to be a good mother, and I know that you're trying hard to be.

    Do please contact the helpline.

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  • Hi Reggie

    Most important, call the Helpline.

    I brought three sons up as a Single Parent and an undiagnosed AS person. My youngest is also quite strongly AS but is as yet undiagnosed.

    I understand exactly what you are going through. Just because you are AS doesn't mean that you can't look after your son, it just means that you are an AS person with AS children. The greater threat to your peace of mind is Social Services, I can see. I had similar issues from time to time.

    If any concern was expressed to me, I automatically turned away. However, I had still listened, and when I was calmer I would consider what they'd said. If they were wrong, OK, I was happy. But, if I thought there was an element of truth, I'd try to make the changes that I thought were needed. I asked for, but was never offered, the kind of support that I thought would be most helpful.

    Your parents raised you and are now responsible for your son, you tell us. Do they have any concerns? If they have, do they talk calmly with you?

    I'm sorry that I can't be more helpful on here, but you would be unwise to tell us the very details that might help us to support you more. However, I have a profile on

    www.asd-forum.org.uk/.../

    You can private message me on there, if you want. I won't reveal anything that is said to me in confidence, and trust you to do the same. I absolutely trust your wanting to be a good mother, and I know that you're trying hard to be.

    Do please contact the helpline.

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