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Aspergers Syndrome- Dating and establishing a relationship

wash620
over 12 years ago
Hello,

I was wondering whether the autistics among us have ever experienced any issues with liking someone romantically, and trying to get to know them, dating them, and becoming closer etc. I've recently started to develop in this area and so far it has been a pretty miserable experience. I had a 10-month crush on a girl at my uni which sadly came to nothing because she entered into a relationship of her own just recently. Throughout this time I found it very difficult not to get preoccupied with this and there was constant confusion about what the other person felt. I think this relates a great deal to how people with Aspergers have trouble reading body language and knowing how to talk to others. There were mixed signals, although not intentional I don't think, and it was both thrilling to like someone but a bit of a hell with all this confusion. Despite the fact that I should be getting over her, it is proving difficult and she still invades my thoughts regularly. This makes me feel ashamed and wonder whether I am a selfish, pathetic individual. Does anyone here with Aspergers have any similar experiences?
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  • over 12 years ago

    wash620 said:

    Hello everyone. Sorry for the lack of replies over the previous months. I had no idea this thread was still going Laughing (stupid email didn't tell me there were replies...). I've now moved on from the girl in question and like someone else who I work with. They're much nicer, easier to understand and smilar to me in terms of personality/interests. I don't think she feels the same way but I'm enjoying spending time with someone nice and overall it is not as stressful as the previous crush. I'm trying not to let it get too intense and it is proving difficult in that area but generally it is a smoother experienceSmile

    dont worry about itCool, all that matters is if any of the comments help you in any way

    im glad you have moved on, its not easy, but its worth it as it means you can find someone else who will make you happy, and you deserve that

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  • over 12 years ago

    wash620 said:

    Hello everyone. Sorry for the lack of replies over the previous months. I had no idea this thread was still going Laughing (stupid email didn't tell me there were replies...). I've now moved on from the girl in question and like someone else who I work with. They're much nicer, easier to understand and smilar to me in terms of personality/interests. I don't think she feels the same way but I'm enjoying spending time with someone nice and overall it is not as stressful as the previous crush. I'm trying not to let it get too intense and it is proving difficult in that area but generally it is a smoother experienceSmile

    dont worry about itCool, all that matters is if any of the comments help you in any way

    im glad you have moved on, its not easy, but its worth it as it means you can find someone else who will make you happy, and you deserve that

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