Published on 12, July, 2020
JoinTheChase said:The annoying thing that I've observed is that Aspie traits in boys - whilst a struggle - can often come across as vulnerable and sweet, which can appeal to girls, but Aspie traits in girls usually make them come off as abrasive or sarcastic etc... so I almost feel like Aspie boys would find it easier to find a nice girl than Aspie girls would to find a nice boy.... please tell me I'm wrong lol
The annoying thing that I've observed is that Aspie traits in boys - whilst a struggle - can often come across as vulnerable and sweet, which can appeal to girls, but Aspie traits in girls usually make them come off as abrasive or sarcastic etc... so I almost feel like Aspie boys would find it easier to find a nice girl than Aspie girls would to find a nice boy.... please tell me I'm wrong lol
If only it were that simple.
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I'm sure it's not. I'm sure it's just the way it's portrayed in movies and stuff because it suits their stories...
It may be partly that.
However, if you interview both men and women, and ask them about (A) the type of person they most wish to form a long-term relationship with, and (B) the type of person they most wish to date. The answers, on average, for (A) and (B) will be the complete opposite of each other.
So, whilst it's true that men with Asperger's have most of the traits that women, on average, look for in a husband, for example, they're also the least likely to get dates.
I dare say the same applies to women with Asperger's too.
Oh, and, just incidentally, I find non-girly women far more attractive than very-girly women (and I've known of several other men with similar tastes to myself), so don't lose hope!
(and, speaking of 'hope' - @Hope: if you read this, yes I'm talking about averages, and stereotypes, that does not mean I think that all women, or all men for that matter, conform rigidly to those average stereotypes - they're just statistical mean averages!)