Published on 12, July, 2020
Sorry, I realise I just tumbled into a monologue again!
To answer your question wash620, yes I have been in the same situation as you. I have tried to approach someone I was attracted to in a subtle way, but it just comes across as creepy, e.g. Facebook messages.
I do get hung up on certain people I like, and this is where we go wrong. To have the confidence to approach people in a casual way is the ideal situation, everyone would feel relaxed. But if you have AS this is a lot easier said than done.
Perhaps an option would be to try and socialise as much as possible, so that you maximise the number of people you could be attracted to, instead of just the same person the whole time. The snowball effect could help you to approach relationships in a less intense way. If you eventually become known as a fairly outgoing, friendly, sociable person, then maybe the relationship will find you. People generally don't like anything intense. I'm a very intense person, it's part of my personality. So that's a cross I will have to bear, hence still looking for Miss Right.
It's not easy...