Published on 12, July, 2020
I think it is important to accept that as an Aspie, you are different from NTs, and in my experience, the only relationships worth pursuing are with very unusual NTs. If the person is unusual you can tell them right away that you are not into all this "unspoken" stuff and you want to be straigthforward and just say what you want/like/think about the relationship.
Of course, as an Aspie you will have to be as thoughtful as you can about the other person and their feelings, but it is impossible to have a lasting relationship with another person if you have to be acting NT all the time, eventually it will become mentally exhausting.
So, I would say it is important to guard against obsessions (in the sense that they will happen, but recognise them for what they are), and try and find someone to really connect with as your true Aspie self.