Aspergers Syndrome- Dating and establishing a relationship

Hello,

I was wondering whether the autistics among us have ever experienced any issues with liking someone romantically, and trying to get to know them, dating them, and becoming closer etc. I've recently started to develop in this area and so far it has been a pretty miserable experience. I had a 10-month crush on a girl at my uni which sadly came to nothing because she entered into a relationship of her own just recently. Throughout this time I found it very difficult not to get preoccupied with this and there was constant confusion about what the other person felt. I think this relates a great deal to how people with Aspergers have trouble reading body language and knowing how to talk to others. There were mixed signals, although not intentional I don't think, and it was both thrilling to like someone but a bit of a hell with all this confusion. Despite the fact that I should be getting over her, it is proving difficult and she still invades my thoughts regularly. This makes me feel ashamed and wonder whether I am a selfish, pathetic individual. Does anyone here with Aspergers have any similar experiences?
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  • Has anyone else ever been chatted up on the bus?

    Nearly every time I go on the bus I get mistaken for a boy (plausable, I have short hair and avoid make up) and end up with a group of girls flirting with me and asking for my number. Even when I do clarify that I'm a girl there's always at least one that pipes up still after my number. Apparently my 'rabbit caught in headlights' traumatised expression is cute. Any ideas how you're meant to react to that other than 'no thanks' and running off the bus at the nearest stop?

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  • Has anyone else ever been chatted up on the bus?

    Nearly every time I go on the bus I get mistaken for a boy (plausable, I have short hair and avoid make up) and end up with a group of girls flirting with me and asking for my number. Even when I do clarify that I'm a girl there's always at least one that pipes up still after my number. Apparently my 'rabbit caught in headlights' traumatised expression is cute. Any ideas how you're meant to react to that other than 'no thanks' and running off the bus at the nearest stop?

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