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Meltdown

flake

My 16 yr old gets very angry over the slightest thing, then he breaks his things, 3 TV's 2 phones tablet. All this year!! I start to panic when I hear the first sign of his meltdown as I know what's next, he costs me a fortune and I don't know what else I can do but just replace stuff to keep him happy!!

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  • It is hard for a child to let you know when the pressure is rising. Supermarkets are horrendous if you are on the spectrum - the noise of air conditiioning, chiller and freezer cabinets, conversations other sides of aisles, people and trolleys getting congested, outside noises, tills ringing, strange smells, loads of colour contrast overload, kids screaming, babies crying.... - hardly surprising he had a meltdown. Losing the toy was a last straw, but the underlying fact is incredibly too much sensory overload.

    My own approach as an adult is to sit down in a supermarket (or stand) and listen to the component noises and work out a strategy for how long I can stay in some parts and where to go if I feel it getting too bad, and when to just abandon my trolley and leave. Yeah I've done that.

    You might be able to do this for him, even if you are not reactive - just listen hard to just how much hits you, if you have no filter or blocking out mechanism. You can then find some quiet parts to take him (if there are such things) if you think he needs some respite.

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  • It is hard for a child to let you know when the pressure is rising. Supermarkets are horrendous if you are on the spectrum - the noise of air conditiioning, chiller and freezer cabinets, conversations other sides of aisles, people and trolleys getting congested, outside noises, tills ringing, strange smells, loads of colour contrast overload, kids screaming, babies crying.... - hardly surprising he had a meltdown. Losing the toy was a last straw, but the underlying fact is incredibly too much sensory overload.

    My own approach as an adult is to sit down in a supermarket (or stand) and listen to the component noises and work out a strategy for how long I can stay in some parts and where to go if I feel it getting too bad, and when to just abandon my trolley and leave. Yeah I've done that.

    You might be able to do this for him, even if you are not reactive - just listen hard to just how much hits you, if you have no filter or blocking out mechanism. You can then find some quiet parts to take him (if there are such things) if you think he needs some respite.

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